Met someone on Bumble. Had good frame and a good mindset, fucked her twice. Fucked her face. Fucked her pussy and did a good ol' 69. She also swallowed my cum. And because it was good, I felt zero abundance of the same quality and experience.
Now I feel like I am overbearing towards her. Even if I have 3 plates on the side, I still think of plate # 1 as the best one. I am feeling the idealistic oneitis towards her just because she's a lawyer who's hot and swallowed my cum. Now she's trying to be repulsive towards me.
What do I do? I could use some perspective. Because of the lockdown, there is nothing else to do at home and all I think about was the sex.
I admittedly went Beta because of it.
Growing 4y ago
You think about the sex coz there are very few girls in your life.
Most sex with girls can be rated at 3 to 3.5
Not much of a disparity.
However, I think it's less of the sex and more of the girl.
Soft next her.
Go meet more girls. It might be hard to soft next but after a few weeks, you'll get used to it.
Try doing field reports of your own messes.
Where did you mess and what can you do about it with the next girl?
We learn, we grow
STAYShredded 4y ago
Going through something similar and this helped me too, cheers dude
Growing 4y ago
I'm most certainly glad
peacemakerzzz 4y ago
How to manage soft next during lockdown?
STAYShredded 4y ago
It's legit hard hey bro, ngl what helped me, I did a couple approaches and got numbers/good reactions... which just reminded me that I am hot (I constantly need external validation unfortunately). Then, I felt put to easy a little bit and actually wanted to just be by myself and enjoy my own company... idk if this will work for u but worked really well for me.
But yea, don't be hard on yourself dude, spinning plates, dating as a redpilled male is extremely difficult during lockdown as its more challenging to have abundance (which is our currency)
Growing 4y ago
Don't be afraid to be creative.
That neighbor you have somewhat found attractive, hit on her.
If she is not that into you, invite her and her friends over.
You have social proof from her and can use her as a wing.
There are tonnes of creative ways to get more girls to soft next with.
peacemakerzzz 4y ago
This person i had a oneitis with happens to be my neighbor. But yes you are right, it's all about getting busy and channeling that untapped energy.
Musicgoon425 4y ago
Look bro, you're only human. And your a guy. This happens to all of us, even the pros. It easy to get hooked on killer sex especially if it's with a girl you find scorching.
Here's the secret, for every girl that you think is amazing there's another one out there that will make you forget about her. You need to find a few of these girls if you find yourself putting this girl on a pedestal.
peacemakerzzz 4y ago
How do I exit from the over-investment bro? Do I just hit a soft next or just move on because I gotta admit that shit ain't easy especially when the damage has already been done. (Broke frame)
Musicgoon425 4y ago
You can break frame occasionally. It's not like virginity. Tgere is no frame hymen.
You withdraw attention and go looking for other chicks. Give very little time and don't give a shit what happens. You'll see that there's always a few girls that will make you forget about the one you're obsessing over.