i don't get it how the narcissist use love bomb as one of their weapon to make their prey fall in love with them cuz what i know if you love bomb someone you need to constantly texting them, calling them and checking them just to show how much you love them and how much you care about them.
in other words love bombing is needy and no abundance at all, so how some woman fall in love when the narcissist love bomb them even you show them that you are needy and you don't have any option?
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Narcissistic men don't love bomb. That's what narcissistic women and oneitis people do. A narcissistic man would follow a script to get women, probably very similar to red pill stuff with custom stuff that they know works on certain types of women. Like they would know some weaknesses. Then keep using it over and over to make you feel bad.
Growing 4y ago
You get it wrong.
Narcissist are experts at push and pull.
A narcissist will fuck up your self worth then later validate you.
This accomplishes two things:
Lowers guard as being a potential suitor. "This person is not hitting on me"
Say you have an asshole boss.
You'll do everything in your power to please/not offend.
He'll hardly notice but the day he does, you'll most likely be loking forward to that moment again.
SheLarror1234 4y ago
So your basically asking how a narcissist can pull females by love bombing yet, the characteristics of love bombing is needy and not abundant. Thus being something a female would not desire.
Well, it goes to say that love bombing is not the only thing a narcissist's does, and is often used very sparingly in contrast to the narcissists regular position. Like adding sprinkles to icecream. Sprinkles taste like shit by itself, but when used sparingly add texture. Lets see an example where love bombing is applicable.
Qhad has a girlfriend.
Qhad does not care about his girlfriend.
Qhad is seen as having "redpill" morals of abundance and unmoving frame but in reality Qhad simply does not give a fuck about anyone or anything. Qhad is abusive and will do what it takes to abuse.
Qhad cheats on his girlfriend in front of her face.
Girlfriend has "enough" and tries to break up with Qhad.
Qhad "lovebombs" his girlfriend and promises her that he will never do it again and that he "saw god". He proceeds to preach about his enlightenment and promises to take her to "See the world" etc. etc.
Since this is completely new for the girlfriend, she thinks "Qhad" has changed. Girlfriend likes the contrast.
Qhad still does not give a fuck, and is pretending, akin to how sharks let their pray swim off to tire them.
This repeated push/pull is what narcissists do. Its to tire you out emotionally and make you docile to their abuse. This is why victims of true narcissist's have trouble leaving them in the first place. People grow, not change overnight.
MonkMode 4y ago
My ex is a cover narcissist. Thanks to RP I was able to leave with my dignity and play her games with little emotional deterioration.
I think every man should research the covert narcissist, as they will be more common in women than the overt narcissist.
LudgerKresnik 4y ago
well explained, this is the answer i'm looking for thanks man.
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