I'm going to sound like a bitch but only have Blue pill men around me so need to share this to people that isn't.
Okay so previously i've dated girls and once they wanted a relationship i just told em no and walked away. Took like 1-2 days and then i was over it. Fine looking women, i would rate them like 7-8s.
So last 1.5year i have been having a LTR with a girl that had some red flags. Abandonment anxiety with daddy issues for example. She took pills for her anxiety. She is so fucking hot, probably the hottest girl ive ever slept with. Even rock stars and actors have Gfs uglier than her. She is a fucking dime. Crazy in bed.
Long story short she logged into my old phone when i was out of town and found out that i have been cheating. She contacted the girls in my phone....(a bit crazy i know)
We broke and i didn't beg for forgiveness or anything, basically just held my frame and wished her good luck with life.
Soooo to my question. I have a mission in life, i know what i want to do and that i have to put in huge amounts of time and efforts into that. When i was with her i felt like she was taking up so much time and energy. Now that she is gone i just feel empty. I still put in time into my mission but i just feel so fucking empty.
Had a date with another 7 couple of days ago and fucked her, just made me feel even more empty.
I hate feeling like this. I want her back but i know its gonna effect my future. I know it's gonna take time away from my mission and goals in life. On the other hand i probably never gonna get a equally beautiful girl than her. Even grammy award winning artist was texting her when we was together...
How do i get over this damn feeling of emptiness?
EDIT: I KNOW IM A PUSSY FOR CHEATING.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
If you had established that you have an exclusive relationship with non-exclusive sex this wouldn't have happened. Besides, do you really want to be with a woman who would rather leave you than share you or work things out? There's no burden of performance on a woman in an exclusive sexual arrangement. She can get all fat, provide lousy sex, withhold sex, etc. If you can get it elsewhere she has to keep your balls drained and be a rock star in bed and keep your attraction to keep you from going elsewhere.
mosd 4y ago
I do agree with you regarding the leave me instead of workings things out. That surely is a valid point.
Regarding the balls drained, she did drain them. Cant complain about sex department.
STAYShredded 4y ago
I've been talking to you about this for a while now and just had a thought, I want you to be honest with yourself answering this... Do you actually not enjoy having plates and dating multiple girls, the challenge of sleeping with new chicks? or r you just finding it all too hard? I think you're answer to this will give you an indication to the best course of action
mosd 4y ago
i did this for 3 years before meeting this girl...it does get boring and lonely after a while.
BDATA 4y ago
I've been in this same situation.
and I'm in the second situation now.
Look, your girl isn't HB 9 or shit. It's a mental image that you've created with the help of emotions. I had this girl, she was so fucking hot that I'd rate her an 8 or something but here is the thing. She became hotter for me with emotional investment. So what I am trying to tell you here is that we are playing games against us.
You should never be with one woman. This is the fact. If you've one woman and if that woman leave you, your abundance is going to go low since you don't have options but if you have many women, its okay even if one goes.
Now men become monogamous thinking that every girl will stay forever.
https://www.livescience.com/13010-polygamy-good-men-bad-women.html
STAYShredded 4y ago
Probably best to look at why you have oneitis for this girl, seems to me it is bc you dont think you'll fuck someone as hot as her... I've had oneitis for girls that r resistant to fuck (think I liked the challenge) so I cannot say I am above this problem, however, looking in externally (which sometimes as all you need) probably realistically need to fuck a girl closer to or above her level HB7 probably didn't do that for u and actually made u miss her more (made her seem better). Although actually achieving this is easier said than done, in the time being remember that you're not at your peak yet (profile doesn't have ur age). Rollo say 36 for men, doubt you're even close to that just based on the nature of the post.
To be fair, you developed an emotional connection with this girl, so you will always have some level of 'neediness' towards her even if you r fucking hotter chicks. Thats why u (and me aswell) need to work on not allowing those feelings to emerge to begin with.
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mosd 4y ago
yah brotha. I think part of it is my ego tbh. Everytime we hang out with my blue pill friends they are like "daaaaaaaym she is gorgeous" And when she wasnt crazy she was the sweetest girl in the world. But man was she clingy, took so so so much energy and time from me.
I think my problems are this :
And by the way, im 31.
STAYShredded 4y ago
Yea dude, defs a shit situation and I can feel your frustration. Unfortunately girls live life on easy mode, that she just needs to post a couple pics on tinder and even if she was only a HB6, would have hundreds of options. TBH i'm still learning and trying to implement this shit myself (for a second time round) 1st time looking back i'm actually pretty proud of where i got to, however, like yourself i plugged back in when i thought i found a unicorn.
So i'm not going to pretend i know the magic pill for your problem, but id suggest trying to get back into plate spinning as much as possible, surround yourself with friends (red pilled or not dosnt matter) and don't let yourself get into this situation again. Prehaps you r getting to a stage of your life where you r looking for a mother of your children and therefore, I can understand why this can hurt so much more (i'm only 20 so along way from that).
But dude, please don't go back to her, hold you FRAME. If you do go back to her, the relationship will never be the same and she will forever have power over you.
mosd 4y ago
yeah and this one is HB9, She wont have it tough...
Can you explain this, always have power over me? I've seen many examples where the guy cheated, the couple sorted it out and made it work. WHY would she have power over me? One can still keep the frame and set boundaries in the LTR?
STAYShredded 4y ago
I just think you going back to her is subconsciously communicating to her that you KNOW you can't do better than her, unfortunately, even the dumbest of girls would be able to draw this conclusion bc girls are pretty good at understanding this stuff even if they wont admit to it. Rollo talks a lot about power at the beginning of the rational male, essentially the person which needs the other person less has the power. If she knows that she could replace you easier than you could replace her... she has the power... does this make more sense my dude?
Ngl, it kinda seems to me like you're still in denial atm, and god or who ever could come to you and tell you how it is and you would ignore bc you still have rose tinted glasses for this girl. -> if this is the case, no one on here will be able to give you an answer to help your situation and you'll probably end up following your heart back to her but remember that girls cannot love you the way you want. Look maybe you'll be in the very select few who live a 'happy ever after' with this girl but tbh statistically you'll probably end up back here in the future sour about life after she branch swings to some new dude.
Mate, I would argue that the majority of people on this forum have experienced what you're going through (I personally have twice smh) thinking that they have found a unicorn. But many of us end up back here, where we started, with extra baggage therefore needing to re-build some of that momentum.
mosd 4y ago
indeed the person who needs the other one more has the power.
To be honest its not that i think she is a unicorn. I know she isnt. She has major flaws...but i still think(maybe hope) that there is still things to get out of this relationship. I really enjoyed being with her and sad to see it go like this.
Musicgoon425 4y ago
Dude you've got oneitis for a shitty woman with. Pretty face. She's full of red flags.
Where's your tribe? How many guy friends do you have. If you lack either, that's your problem. Forget that bitch. Stop simping for her because she looks good.
You need to make your own social circle.
mosd 4y ago
Im not gonna argue regarding the oneitis...My logical brain says run, my beta brain says try again.
I got a lot of male friends, i would say i have about 3-4 different male circles. I do a lot of sports and rest of the time im grinding on my mission and working my 9-5