Been in a LTR for around 1 yr. She has been very submissive and gives me little to no shit tests.
Yesterday we got into a discussion in which she disrespected me. Context: Her best female friend started a new job as a financial advisor (side note she has never studied or was into Finance stuff at all before). These financial advisor make money off of you signing contracts. These so called finance advisor seem very dubious. Her best friend is always trying to convince me to sign numerous insurances and stocks in the stock market with her. I work as a IT-specialist for a big German car company and make a Good 5 digit salary. And I know my shit and invest myself. I politely decline her offers. Now her boss who is brainwashing people who are hoping to make quick money also brainwashed my ltrs best friend is a 27 year old Dude (also never studied and if you google theire company it says every where snow ball system not serious). I told my ltr these people are clowns who are trying to make a quick buck and you fell for it but that’s not my problem. I got kicked out of my parents home with 14 and lived on my own since. Struggled my whole life to get where I am at today. And my ltr defends the guy and say I am dumb and not open to learn from this dude in finance and in life. I could’ve belive my ears telling me i am dumb cause I can learn from a clown who has never achieved shit in his life. Anyway I tolle her quietly never ever disrespect me like this ever again. And told her to leave my house. She got all emotional and cried. I am unsure how to proceed. Would this be a deal breaker for you or am I over reacting. And if so I will not contact her until she comes back and makes it up to me. Would you proceed otherwisE?
BPasFuck 4y ago
Bro, you've nailed the dismount.
Up to you if you wanna try and execute another routine here.
She may not have actually acted on anything with this clown-- but in her mind, she's been building him up. He probably dresses nice. Might have a sweet car. Fancy house. And be leveraged to the max with nothing in savings, spending every nickel he has just to look successful.
Your girl probably started to feel attacked, as you began chopping away at this image of this dude she's constructed. Pointing out how full of shit he is, forces her to have to reconcile this image she has of him in her mind of being some kind of money man that probably also has a big cock, and loves to spend money on the women in his life, but if she got with him, he'd totally cut all those other women off and just spend on her, and it'd be this magical romance, and hot sex every day, and he probably doesn't fart and he's probably super good in bed, but also super loyal, and oh my god, what am I even doing in this relationship I'm in, is it going anywhere....
Yeah. That's my attempt at a basic bitch's stream of consciousness. Guarantee, your girl is just that basic too.
You just keep doing what you're doing. Bottom line, she reacted this way because she's got a fantasy about the guy and his position in life, and didn't like you destroying the daydream.
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SheLarror1234 4y ago
This is the truth. Boy best friends are an absolute no no in any ltr. And not even to mention, the contract signing shit shes pulling. I would 100% never speak to her again and break it off. Females like this is how your success is ruined overnight OP. BREAK it OFF.
You have to much to lose for this type of BS.
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Only you and you alone know what you will put up with from someone else. She crossed one of your lines and you promptly showed her the door. That's exactly how to enforce a boundary.
Disregard the emotions and crying. That's a woman's self defense mechanism kicking in when they think they have no other recourse.
What you do from here is up to you.
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Musicgoon425 4y ago
Withdraw attention totally for a week then hit her up again like nothing happened.