Hello.
Context - Met this girl at school about 3 weeks or so ago, got her number since she sits across from me in class and had very clear OI’s. Have kept things light playful for the most part, but I admit I’ve had some really shitty simp moments I didn’t realize till after where I was seeking her validation and or attention.
She also called me attractive to my face.. said I was qoute “attractive for a man” … weird way of putting it.
Anyways, we were having a convo and shes left me on delivered and it’s like day 3 or something I can’t 100% remember. I gotta admit I kinda do have onetits for this girl in a way, even though I don’t find her crazy attractive. I just wanna go out with her and put her up as a plate.
Should I remove my attention from her at school and ghost her when she responds?
Any thoughts or recommendations ?
CaptainAlphaTank 4y ago
One tits
whytehorse2021 4y ago
You should've called her, gotten her comfortable with you, then smashed, like 3 weeks ago. Just walk up to her at school like a man and set up a date. Stop texting. It's not needed. Think of this like practice. You may have already blown it and she'll say no but you'll get practice.
BPasFuck 4y ago
Sounds like she enjoys the attention, but has other, better options elsewhere.
No reason to be butthurt about it. Act like everything's cool, but don't bother taking any of her bullshit seriously.
Chances are, she will detect that you are withdrawing your attention, and will try to re-engage you. That will be your opportunity to try and get her onboard the train, but the odds aren't great.
Use this one for practice.
Popyiy 4y ago
Sounds about right.
Could you possibly elaborate on, "act like everything cool"? should I be not pushing for a date etc & text her normally? I don't doubt it, odds are probably iffy at this time.
Will try removing attention one by one and see how things go, I don't wanna make it obvious.
BPasFuck 4y ago
It means you probably shouldn't push for a date. But you also probably shouldn't act all butthurt either.
Be polite. Be conversational. Flirt if you're bored. Whatever. But in the back of your mind, realize, she's just a time waster.
Sebottendorf 4y ago
No, you don’t want her to be your plate. You have oneitis. You probably dream a blue pill life with her. No surprise she left you on ‘Delivered’ if you tried to have a conversation with her by texting. Texting is for logistics. She may have liked your face, but you messed it up by not setting up a date for three weeks. What to do now? Only talk to her in real life and try to set up a date, if she doesn’t want it or flakes somehow, move on and remember not to make the same mistakes again.
Popyiy 4y ago
Oneitis based on the fact that I wanna smash lol. If I was to be honest, shes not really even 100% my type shes just a shy girl with a nice body nothing crazy special. Its just the fact that I haven't developed my abundance mindset so its like shes the only real chick I'm texting at the moment so in my mind I get scared to take risks a little.
Will take the advice of removing attention then setting up date IRl. Thanks boss