I had a show the other night (I’m in a band) and after the show two girls came up to me and started conversation. Both girls have been long time coworkers, nothing sexual. I knew as soon as they started chatting with me my girl was irritated. She thinks one of the coworkers has feelings for me and doesn’t like it.
After I was talking with both of my coworkers, I go back and sit down next to my girl. Her back is facing me and she says nothing for 5 minutes, then gets up and disappears. She comes back, grabs something, and I walk up to her and I say “What’s going on?” She walks right by me and doesn’t look me in the eye or say a word. She disappears for 20 minutes, gossiping to her cousin about the situation.
She comes back, I sit her down and have her explain her little pouty fit. I told her that when I speak to you, you look me in the eye and don’t ever walk away from me again. She lied and said she “didn’t see me” - I told her she was full of shit, because I stopped and stood right in front of her.
She broke down, admitted that she was upset at the fact that one of my coworkers has feeling for me. She was jealous of her before we were even in a relationship. She has trust issues from her previous relationship, and I told her if she is going to bring those issues into this one then I’m not going to waste my time. She apologized, broke down and said she is afraid of losing me. She tried to have sex with me when we got home, but I couldn’t get hard and said no. Was completely turned off.
The next day she was embarrassed and admitted to being extremely immature.
Was in in the wrong for chatting with my two coworkers after the show? I don’t understand. Maybe this is drama the relationship needed, it has been going pretty smooth for a year now.

Anonytrp 4y ago
Don't lost frame over her behavior. Don't give attention when she acts up, u did nothing wrong and just act that way. You can't control if people crush on you or not. You don't spend time thinking about it.
mosd 4y ago
what did you do when she broke down at home? Did you let her know its ok or did you just comfort her?
Stratyyy 4y ago
I said nothing. It’s not okay to me, I was emotionless and let her talk the whole time.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Panic attack triggered by separation anxiety? See, this why ONEITIS is so problematic. This is why monogamy is so problematic. She knows you have options. Her entire blue pill plan has been foiled and her belief system is collapsing. She can't use sex to control you. Now she actually has to be the woman that you want to be with, both sexually and mentally. She has to keep your balls drained or the girl at work will gladly oblige. Might as well just come right out and say it. Exclusive relationship with non-exclusive sex. Either that or get back on the plantation and be her little slave.
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Stratyyy 4y ago
Thanks for the reply - she already lets me do anything I want to her.
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Musicgoon425 4y ago
You handled this very well. She's catching some dread and you're showing preselection. Just continue on. Don't apologize or change anything. If she acts shitty withdraw attention. Do not give in to her tantrums.
This was actually a really good thing. You did everything right nothing wrong.