So the other day i got this girls number by cold approach at the Y. long story short i text her find out we have similar teachers and go to the same school. We text for a bit and she seems super interested over text. then when we meet in person for the second time shes super unreactive. So i brush it off i dont really care. I go to the Y that night and shes there again. So i start up a conversation its pretty alright we just talk about our days. she still seems pretty unreactive like she doesnt have alot of expressions. I go work out. on my way out i say "Ay you still wanna go out sometime?" this time asking in person to see her reaction. She still wants to go out. so i set a time and said we'd talk details another time cus i was on my way out.
My thoughts: i think shes just introverted and shy probobly. thats why shes more expressive over text. Ive had past experiences with girls like that before. Basically tho i dont wanna waist my time going on a date with someone not interested. So What do you guys think?
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Let's preface this by saying: Judge a girl by their actions, not their words.
You're probably giving her the validation she craves through texts and you're not fulfilling the same in person. GTFO the phone and stimulate her face to face if you get another chance.
TLDR; text to set up a date and be more attractive in person
Hiram_abiff 4y ago
yeah i agree after thinking about it. Im gonna just try to set a date as soon as possible and be done with it. I realise the high of cold approaching(for me) and getting approached(for her) is dying. I mean it doesnt really matter i got other girls i could ask out. Im still learning after all.
Sebottendorf 4y ago
Can you elaborate on being attractive in person?
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Rollo calls things like texting a "buffer". It stems from men's fear of rejection. Try to do everything in person. Texting is convenient for logistics but not for talking. You miss out on all her facial microexpressions, hand gestures, vocal tone, etc.
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Of course.
The idea is to be more attractive and less unattractive.
This means portraying more fuckable traits and chucking the supplicating traits out the window. Let's see a few examples;
Be the guy you'd fuck if you were gay
These are the basics of redpill and can be found on the sidebar. Truly must-reads.
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YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Thanks Buffalo Bill
whytehorse2021 4y ago
The guy who gets fucked is usually feminine and submits to a top. I don't think women will find that attractive.
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Lol fuck. You know what I mean tho.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
Sounds like autism, honestly. I'm autistic. Lots of undiagnosed autistic people running around, especially women. We just don't react the way neurotypicals think we should. We're literal. I bet she has resting bitch face and you're like "what's wrong?" and she's like "why are you asking that? Nothing's wrong". That's just autism my brother from another mother. Be kind to us. Overlook the awkwardness. It's not intentional. This is the one case where I would say go by what she says and not by what she does. We're rock stars on chat and forums BTW because we can process things slower than in real time.
Hiram_abiff 4y ago
I literly thought this exact thing. cus my brother used to date a girl with minor autism and he suggested it cus shes kinda acting how his ex used too. She does have an RBF too. like that explains alot
whytehorse2021 4y ago
I always wanted a hot autistic wife but all I ever found were fatties and freaks. Then I had to learn how we come across to neurotypicals so I could teach my son how to socialize. I can understand exactly why things are awkward and the way it makes neurotypicals feel. It's super annoying being around autistic people that don't know they're autistic. Flat affect(RBF), monotone voice, lack of eye contact, social awkwardness, etc. Nowadays I wouldn't want an autistic wife. It's better when we pair up with neurotypicals because then at least one of us can handle the neurotypical stuff. You get a more rational/logical woman who's honest(usually) but the tradeoff is she's scatterbrained when it comes to remembering times/dates, faces, remembering she has a pot of water boiling, poor selective attention(can't focus on one voice in a multi-voice environment), etc. Just some things that aren't a big deal but require some accommodation. I have to watch movies with subtitles if there are other people around making noise, for example. She'll eventually let you know her accommodations. Oh and we can be incredibly naive. Netflix and chill doesn't mean "come over and have sex", it means watch netflix and chill.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
If you don't know, go on a date to find out.
Hiram_abiff 4y ago
i set up a date saturday, but then realised i have something important to do that day, and had to cancel. She says the rest of the week shes busy. At this point its getting too confusing with other stuff going on. Like it was a cold approach its supposed to be simple. Im just gonna drop it it and move on to others for now. She said maybe next week, if shes still interested she'll reach out to me. I dont really care tho at this point. From this all ive realised another major problem effecting my dating is that i cant drive yet. My family is all really busy and cant just bring me out whenever, and im not gonna have the girl pick me up so its kinda hard. Hopefully in a few months i'll be able to get my license but idk whats gonna happen. Theres also some other issues which ill probobly make another post asking about.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
Cold approach is not simple.
IF she's still interested??? Fuck that shit.
it's ok to have her pick you up
Hiram_abiff 4y ago
Eh i talked to her again in person, her interest level is 5> now seems, so gonna just move on. It was my first try so i dont really care. Just gonna continue to try to increase my SMV while approaching other girls. Can you elaborate on how cold approach isnt simple tho? I thought it seemed pretty basic.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
Direct...indirect....get number or get date? how to generate enough attraction without looking like you're trying...
It's not that hard, but you're dealing with women so it's not going to be easy
Hiram_abiff 4y ago
i said basic not easy