Hi, men. Recently I dealt with an alpha widow and she made me emotionally invest more than her. From the first very day of our conversation, I knew that she was an alpha widow and that's why I put distance between us. Her ex was Chad who cheated on her multiple times and she accepted him back. For her, he was abusive and in the end, she ended her fucked up relationship with him.
Out of scarcity and my curiosity about alpha widows, I gave her a chance. I thought that I have enough frame for relationship with her and I became a little bit Mr Captain Save a Hoe. Well, here where the fun begins...
She made me invest emotionally more than her, she made see her as a LTR material and she made me dismiss my purpose for her. The process was slow, she was extra cold, distant and and when I realized that I am being manipulated, it was too late. I TRIED to walk away but couldn't due to my feelzz for her. And whenever I tried to walk away, she made me come back again.
After we started to date I made a little mistake, she said that she wants to break up and she replaced me less than 5 days. They had sex at first date (Thanks to my guts), then she dumped him and came back to me. I blocked her from everywhere, I gave her 100% silence and I went No Contact with her FOREVER.
Now... I am not here to bitch and mourn about some girl. Yes, I know I am retarded enough to give her a chance after realizing that she is damaged alpha widow. Case study ended and I want to gain experience out of it. My questions are:
Do women who got cheated by Alphas are the potential cheaters in their next relationship?
Why did she came back to me after having some kinky stuff? I mean did she came out of guilt? Can women have feelings of guilt?
Once cheater is always cheater?
Thanks in advance, brothers.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
First of all, women like this use sex to control men. If a man is able to get sex elsewhere, she can't control him. She HAS to break up and get a new slave, oops I mean man. This is why all men should demand unlimited access to sex and never agree to monogamy. If a woman is willing to let you have sex with other women, she's there because she wants you. She would rather share you than lose you. She values you. If she insists on monogamy, she's using you.
Of course she has no guilt. You're just a slave to her. You're beta bux. She broke up to branch swing to Alpha Fux, got pumped and dumped, and came back to good ole beta bux. She probably got pregnant and was going to make you raise Chad's kid. Dual mating strategy.
YourOwnDisaster 4y ago
Sounds Narcissist-BPD. Look into it.
She doesn't care about what you feel, only what she wants. She most likely has NO guilt and will take and use you for everything you allow her to... especially validating her senseless existence.
Steer wide and clear my friend.
TheStoicMan01 4y ago
Man... You are genius. She had BPD and I realized this months later. Damn.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 4y ago
This
Borderline personality disorder is the biggest red flag of all time. Nothing should ward you off a girl more than BPD. They will wreck your life if you let them, they are entirely selfish to the core, and they will always cheat on you. Worst of all they're really good at love bombing guys convincingly and making them feel great when it's a good day (and they're usually quite sexual people and good in bed), so it's not difficult for a poor chump to get completely sucked in by what is essentially an evil woman.
Oh, and nothing is ever their own fault. Nothing. They lack capacity to grow and develop, learn from mistakes, or take responsibility for their actions. BPD may be a legit mental illness (frankly I consider them a breed of sociopaths), so feel free to feel sorry for these girls, but never, NEVER date them.
Initial-Glove 4y ago
Yes. It is a cycle. If you got shitted on last time, you'll shit next time.
Women turn guilt into something else. We dont deal with it well. We'll turn it into being a victim or do a total 180° and turn into someone else. Idk. Its very easy to tell when a woman is guilty, even the best liar.
Last, I highly doubt she "made" you do anything. Sounds like there were some choices made here. Own em.
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Initial-Glove 4y ago
Both.
This woman felt guilty bc she was guilty, right?
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Initial-Glove 4y ago
Lol. She feels like crap bc she did something crappy and tried to throw it back on you.
If she wasn't wrong, she would feel fine about whatever the argument or discussion was about.
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Initial-Glove 4y ago
That's good! Women can add a lot of unnecessary problems in your life, just be careful..
I just like reading a lot of different perspectives on relations. I follow MGTOW more than TRP, but I like some of the ideas.
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Initial-Glove 4y ago
Thanks. Took me forever to get here. Lots of years of bad mistakes.
Yeah hookups Are alright I guess. Nothing I'd do. I'm just not comfortable jumping into bed with strangers. Idk. Just not for me.
If I were a guy I'd rather get a pro. They won't stalk you and you pay them to go away.
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Initial-Glove 4y ago
I made out with a couple random guys in college, such a mistake. Did some fooling around, dry humping etc.
I made a million other mistakes since then. I was a pickme up until last year when I finally got my wake up call. Now, my interest level in dating has dropped severely.
Your self confidence shouldn't hinge on a woman's attention. That's pick me stuff. The stuff I had to get over.
The less you care about women, the more attractive you'll be to them.
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Initial-Glove 4y ago
Thank you.
Yes self esteem is a long lonely road but its possible. Just "work on yourself". Take care of yourself, eat better, read more, get more fresh air, stay off SM..
Definitely dont base your worth off someone else's opinion. Been there. Its a hard thing to separate from but its possible. Good luck.
whytehorse2021 4y ago
The key difference between prostitutes and dating modern women is you skip the date, give the money directly to the woman, and proceed to sex without the illusion that she's not a whore. Both are whores. Go for traditional women and save yourself some time and money. Assuming you want a wife and kids. If not, stick with whores.
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whytehorse2021 4y ago
I could send you to my wife's home town and probably every single woman would say yes to marriage. All are traditional. I've heard you can go to any village in Vietnam and say you're looking for a wife and all the single women will line up and you can pick any of them. I mean I heard it from my buddy who lived and worked in Vietnam, not some internet rando.
I mean you have to turn over a few rocks but eventually you'll find gold. The West has very little gold left, unfortunately. I screened a lot of women from my wife's country who were gold diggers, single mothers, tramps, etc. but I found my unicorn.
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whytehorse2021 4y ago
Indonesia. I went MGTOW in 2005. I quit my shitty job, sold all my junk, and got on a plane to the island of the gods(Bali). She met me at the airport. At the hotel I put a ring on her finger and proceeded to make babies. Did the big fat Javanese wedding thing for $500 and got $1k in gifts. Apparently I'm Muslim now so I invented new Islam where you can eat pork, drink alcohol, don't pray, and other things formerly seen as sins but are just out-dated norms.
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whytehorse2021 4y ago
Yeah just do whatever the fuck you want. You only live once. Don't let modern women and society make you a slave. If I can escape the plantation, anybody can.
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Mosomoso 4y ago
Abuse victims tend to become abusers themselves. She was "abused" by her ex Chad bf who repeatedly cheated on her and she wanted you to experience the same.
Musicgoon425 4y ago
Notice what you said a few times ,"she made me". How did she make you? Let's be honest here: your frame was shaky at best. She didn't make you, you chose to. Alpha widows are too damaged as a rule of thumb to go after. If you do, you need to control yourself and lead the interaction 100%.
Girls don't cheat if you're their best option and they are worried about losing you.
My main girl knows that if she does something wrong, she loses me. And she will get replaced without much trouble.
kingofthecastle 4y ago
To your first question, Alpha Widows become potential cheeters when they're next partner doesn't live up to her last lay, basically a beta bux, alpha fux situation.
And to your 2nd, women only come back (after a break up) when they get pumped and dumped. So they run back to closest guy in her contacts, for a rebound until she finds another option.