How much burden do you assume?

Ok.

You're right: not every girl will like you. Sometimes you fuck it up, sometimes they girl doesn't like you and never would have regardless. And somewhere in the middle you've got the reality that the maybe-girls might fuck you if your game is solid.

Let me ask you something..... what do you want? You want to know if you are a solid contender? Or you want to know if your game is tight? Or you want to know if the girl likes you? Or do you want to have fun and get laid?

Whatever it is you want, go after that.

First of all, that is amazing that you are so focused on personal development and doing cold approaches to improve yourself.

"As a man building his purpose (but still very far away from it) would you still recommend cold approach just as a means of becoming more comfortable with being bold and social? Obviously you occasionally get laid."

Well, in the meantime just think about what James Bond would do. It sounds cheesy but that is what I did before I had a successful business and it worked but was not authentic so dating is much easier for me now since it is all authentic and real. You know what you need best but I would say fuck women at this point and just relentlessly work towards your goals. Women want men of value so by becoming a man of value you will naturally attract women. Also, you will get laid much more than occasionally. I lay 1-2 new drop dead beautiful women a week w/o ever going out of my way on top of the few times per week with my long term non monogamous girl which might become monogamous soon as she is hinting that is what she wants and I might be ready to settle down too. Believe it or not sleeping around gets old. Also, James Bond would work to build his business/purpose even if he was not successful right then. So maybe approaching women isn't even what you should be doing. Up to you though.

"Or do you think purpose will fix that problem automatically?"

Your purpose should be the most important thing in your life over everything including women but with that being said women will drool over a man with a clearly defined mission for himself and a clear purpose.

"What if your purpose leads you to a very non-social or only business interactions type of lifestyle? I don't see how purpose alone would fix your girl problems in that case."

I own a security guard company I run 100% from our own office so that describes me perfectly. I met a tall beautiful women who worked at a Lexus dealership and had sex with her a day later. I was just there getting my car serviced. I met this adorable little Mexican girl at a burrito joint and had sex that week after the second date. I was just getting lunch. A man carries himself when he has purpose. You have seen some men that enter the room and you physically feel their presence and their dominance. It doesn't mean they are dominant over you necessarily but just in general that they are dominant males. Women flawk to these men. This aura happens naturally when man has a purpose and the confidence that comes with it. Women can feel this same feeling but 10x and it makes them wet as fuck. Why do you think women like being choked, spanked hard and having their hair pulled during sex? It is because they want to feel how in complete control their man is and her man can do whatever he wants to her while he is inside her. Women crave this dominant aura.

But with all that being said, I meet 60-70% of the women I date from Bumble because it is easy and you are guaranteed to meet motivated women on that app. So there is always a way.