Regarding my last post, I took my fwb straight to fucking at my place this last date. As a little background, the week previous to this incident, she overtly said she didn't want a relationship so I soft nexted her and dated and fucked other plates that were not so active before.
Once we were at my place, she kept asking why I asked her to stop calling me love, or nicknames and why I was acting so distant. So I said :: ¨other woman might see those things in my chats and have asked previously if we were exclusively dating, and that I previously said yes to, but after the talk we had last week things changed.¨
We finished having sex, and she threw a comfort test I think, asking the name of the women I had gone out with and she said she was upset that just because we had a small fight I ran into sluts of a friends I have. I told her that the dates were just dinners, and refused to give the names. However she kept at it and eventually I said the 3 names.
One of the plates was a ex roomy of hers that had stolen a necklace worth 1500 usd, and had emotional value to her so she flipped and said she was done, even though I firmly said I didn't have sex with her. (I did). She said she felt betrayed and didn't trust me and started packing her shit to leave.
I didn't apologize at first, and did a pressure flip blaming it on her, and her lack of commitment speech she gave me last week, and I said that she confused me to what she wants out of this. She was the one that said she didn't want a relationship, and might even get back with her ex, yet she replied that she wanted to start off as friends, and I said yeah we are friends, friends with benefits. However she kept bitching how she didn't want that, and wanted me to be ¨loyal¨ to her, because she has been to me. She said she isn't my friend anymore and wanted be demoted to plate, and that we would only see each other for sex, and I said sure, however what's funny ... is she later says sex isn't important to her and she doesn't want that and backpedals.
Shes giving one text replies these last 4 days and Im not chasing hard, however last night I sent her a voice note that I was willing to talk things out and apologize for the situation. This is my last attempt to reach out, I know this might be entering her frame but I know I can recover. According to TRP, jealousy is a good thing so I don't know what I did wrong besides telling her the names of the women and not letting the hamster spin on its own.
Thoughts?
TLDR: FWB finds out I dated women after she said she didn't want a relationship and is giving me the cold shoulder now.
BabyUareSoSexy 2y ago
The best thing you can do is stop chasing her. Don't apologize, don't send her voice messages. If she's giving you the cold shoulder, just walk away. Stay on your purpose, fuck other plates, ... This plate is playing games. Show her you have options. Not through your words, but through your actions. If it's not a hell yes, spend your time on other girls.
anon55 2y ago
K I’ll just lay back I guess. I’m already fucking other plates, but ONEITIS is still strong. I never stopped working out either.
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anon55 2y ago
How2fix
And yeah lesson learned.
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Musicgoon425 2y ago
This is your answer. avoid talking about other women. Don't think about giving this type of info out to her. YIt between you and the other girls you've fucked.