Been feeling like I've wasted my 'best' years as of late.
I'm 23. Graduated college 2 years ago. Since I was 18 I haven't done much other than put 100% into my studies and early career. The good news is that I graduated into a relatively prestigious role (for post grads) that is also a feeder into a Top 5 MBA if I wanted to in the future. In addition to that luckily I've always made it a point to workout 4-5 times a week and have built a relatively decent physique
The problem is in terms of social / personal life I have nothing. No real friends from college. No fun stories. Throughout college I would estimate I've only had a count of ~10 just thru lucky Tinder matches.
Yes I would agree that my professional life is on track, but does that matter or does it really pay off?
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otherside 2y ago
Hey man, you are young and on a good path! I went back to school at 24 and just started my professional career at 29. I wish I could be setup like you are now. I have a good social network but sometimes I feel like I wasted my life too because my friends are more ahead financially.
I found that as you get older you have to put in real effort to make friends and maintain them. So you really have to put yourself out there and try and find your pack. If you like your coworkers maybe start there or chat up people at the gym etc. If you like golfing, camping, fishing etc, invite some cool people to hang out. Start a whatsapp group with them and send memes and jokes. Eventually they will invite you to cool shit too. If you can't bring value to peoples lives then they won't really want to hang out and vice versa. So try and bring value.
Cheers brother, it seems like you got your foundation built and thats the most important part. Now its time to put yourself out there!
Musicgoon425 2y ago
Quit whining. You have all the potential now put it to work. 23 isn't old. I got Zeroed out after divorce at 35. If you enjoy throwing yourself a pity party go ahead. But your life hasn't even started yet. I'm in my 49's having more fun, adventure, community and crazy sex than I have in my life ever.
So here are your choices:
Continue to bitch and live a sucky uninteresting life. And just don't do anything.
Or
Go out and enjoy your life. Have adventures and actually use your potential.
Change your attitude because it's hot garbage right now.
Bullish_Business 2y ago
This! People just need to stop complaining for attention and pitty and start working.
BMP2CPM 2y ago
My suggestions:
1) Great job on focusing on career. Continue your path. It will pay dividends throughout your life.
2) Your soulmate is most likely not legal yet. So you are doing great with your life so far.
3) Read the book “How to Win Friends and influence people.” Make it a part of your life.
4) Get out and meet lots of people of all ages, both genders. Your goal is not to find a girl. Instead, your goal is to be vetted by friends and family members of many girls.
5) Rinse and repeat. After you do this for a while, girls will notice you and pursue. Girls love men with resources who are already pre-vetted. Pre-vetting is like an instant all-access back stage pass to a girl.
5) Pick the girl you like and enjoy.j Just don’t marry the first girl that shows you attention.
And put zero effort into getting a girl. Let the girl do all the work. She will pursue you since you are pre-vetted by her friend or family member.
The best part is you will know she is not batsh*t crazy because you know all about her from her friend or family member.
6) Read every John Cory novel. Become your own version of John Cory.
Good luck!
Bullish_Business 2y ago
No time like the present to start!
carnold03 2y ago
Are there any ideas as to what else that you'd like to be doing?