Wrote a post a few days ago. I'm 24 and a virgin but I'm pretty good looking and I can decently carry myself. Worst problems are low self esteem, approach anxiety, being boring and no social life aside from two friends i play video games with.
Opened instagram the other day and suddenly I'm bombarded with awesome social life of other people. Going to house parties, going out with friends and all sorts of things.
I'm dead jealous. I don't know where to start and it's eating me up. I'm a reclusive guy, and I was pretty content with playing video games all day but I guess these days are coming to an end.
What should I do? It pains me to see other people enjoying themselves so much while I'm just sitting here doing nothing with my life... I have no purpose and I can't possibly think of one.
If I stay indoors I won't meet new people and women, but going outside literally drains me emotionally.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 2y ago
People only post shit on social media that makes them look good. Don't be misguided. They aren't posting when they're going home after work on Friday night and feeling like shit because they have no plans except a TV dinner alone. Stop comparing yourself to other people's social media pages.
For your free time, lift. Start there. If you take it seriously, count calories, work on protein intake, you will see a world of difference in your attitude over time.
Kuntason 2y ago
“If I stay indoors I won't meet new people and women, but going outside literally drains me emotionally.” No. What drains you or any man emotionally is having no purpose and staying in your house playing with your social phobic friends over the net. For you having the life you want is not far from reaching, ask me how I know. You need to start your journey. A journey of self improvement through TRIAL & ERROR. No other option. Staying in your bed whining won’t help. Nobody will hold your hand out of your miserable life. Embrace the man you are. Start lifting. Start engaging with people you see outside. Remember, TRIAL & ERROR.
JRedboy 2y ago
I'm sorry but I'm just afraid. I don't care to sound like a wimp (because I am) but I wouldn't be here if I could just magically jump on the boat to the life I want for myself.
I'll start social anxiety therapy, that's an idea I had today, what I am asking is where can I find support? Where can I find guidance? I've read the sidebar and I'm doing book reading currently (game by roosh, read book of pook 2 weeks ago) but I'm so frustrated right now I'm grasping at straws...
Do i need to go out to bars and clubs by myself? Do I need to talk to random people on the street and ask them if they want to be my friend (/s, obviously no one does this but you get the idea)
redpillskill 2y ago
You said you were good looking. How good looking? Be very honest with yourself. If the answer is in fact 'Pretty good looking' you could do worse than dating apps. I have a post on the massive advantage girls have on these and generally wouldn't recommend. But if the alternative is literally sitting alone then why not give it a shot? It's low stakes in that everyone is more confident behind their keyboard, you just type... that is if you get responses.
Hanscheezburger 2y ago
Fuck, man. You sound sad. Nobody can love you if you dont love yourself.
Start by doing something you really enjoy outside of videogames and find friends from there. Just being nice to people without expecting them to be nice back will help you a lot. I used to make a lot of new friends just answering questions and helping people on a local facebook group. I stopped doing that now because i enjoy having a small circle more.
Its not easy but its not hard either. And either way, you wont be able to change unless you start doing something
carnold03 2y ago
If it's summer where you are, put a bottle of water in your fridge with an empty glass tonight. Saturday or Sunday morning just walk around the neighborhood while everyone else is still asleep or getting ready for work and then go home. Then take out a sheet of paper or a journal and write how you feel. Don't concern yourself with parties or anything like that right now, just go for a short walk around the neighborhood, return home and write out how you feel. When you feel ready, share your thoughts with us.
Musicgoon425 2y ago
Sack the fuck up and go out. You can either do the work and change or choose to do nothing, but then you lose the right to bitch about your social life, because you don't try.
I used to be fat. I went to the gym. And the first 2 months I was drained. But I kept going. That's what you need to do socially.