In a few weeks I am moving back to the city where I went to university (just finished this year). Usually I was living there during the weekdays and in the weekend I would come back to my city. When covid hit I moved back here so I could save some money.
In my university time I haven't really expanded my acquaintances or friends to be honest. Basically I was just going to university and back and that was it. My social skills were super low and at the beginning I was actually avoiding chatting up with people (for what reason I have no fucking clue). Fortunately I improved my social skills(still lots and lots of work to do) and now I actually want to come in contact with as many people as possible.
So it's almost like I'm starting from scratch. Apart from the 2 guys I share the rent with I pretty much don't have people I can hangout with. Not even at work, since I worked from home the whole time I've been here. And it doesn't seem we'll be going back to the office pretty soon (now anybody can go but it's not mandatory) I won't be able to do too much in the workplace.
How can I make the most out of this situation? By that I mean having as many experiences and making as much friends and acquaintances as possible. My only idea is to join either a dance club or a combat sport club(both of which I've been wanting to do for a long time). Obviously I'm gonna continue lifting but I don't really see how I could just meet people at the gym.
And another question on the same note: how do you turn people you meet in these kinds of clubs to people you hang out with? It seems to me that usually you just end up chatting with them at that certain activity location and that's it. Outside of it you don't really interact much.
BabyUareSoSexy 2y ago
I started going out solo last year, because my friends are all pussy whipped. Honestly, talk to anyone. I was walking around, checking out girls, and I saw 2 cute girls and 1 guy playing a game with cards. Made eye contact with them, walked up and asked what game they were playing. Apparently it was a drinking game, and they asked me to play along. Started talking with them, they got me drunk, flirted with one of the girls and later hooked up with her.
Another time I was sitting at a bar by myself, saw a group of people sitting next to me, maybe like 8 people? One of the guy was drinking a cocktail that looked good. I asked what he was drinking, because I wanted to try it out. Started talking with the group, and they asked me why I was sitting alone. Told them my friends are all pussy whipped, they laughed and told me to sit with them. Started interacting with them, some of them shared hobbies with me (Padel). So I said we should play sometime, and we did. Ever since then, I can hang out with them.
Even through girls, I've met many people. I remember cold approaching a girl. Fucked her once, and she invited me out with her friends. I was like, sure why not? So, I went with them, talked to all her friends. The guys listened to the same music, one of them was a techno DJ, apparently. They regularly hosted house parties, and he said I was welcome to join. I never went, because I got bored with the girl, so it was kind of awkward, but this was another opportunity to make friends and expand my social circle.
Here, where I live, everything's closed due COVID. So people hang out at parks or squares. Bumped into an old highschool friend and he introduced me to his friends, and I slept with one of the girls, dated her for a few months. Even one time I was at a square with loads of people, walked up to a cute girl and told her she looked familiar. Started talking and she was there with friends too. Started talking to some guy and he was pretty cool. He told me to come with him and he introduced me to his sister and many more girls and guys.
So, my point is, talk to anyone, learn to have fun by yourself, be social. Say yes to any opportunity you get. The amount of times when something turned out to be much more fun than I expected, is unreal. If you're a fun guy and people like you, it's easy to interact with them. Don't just stop by chatting. Find something you have in common. Hobbies, music, whatever, ... Even if you don't have anything in common, you can still just cold approach girls and have fun by yourself. That's why I don't bother with dating apps or anything online anymore.
splifferoo 2y ago
Never had any experience with moving to a new city, but it seems like you already have the blueprints. You live with two other dudes, if they seem alright, talk to them a bit and invite them out. Join a combat sport, join a sports club like soccer/basketball/tennis, and at the gym just ask for a spot from someone that isn’t too occupied with music, etc. Ask them a light life question or make a joke and if they’re receptive, keep talking to them. And a dance club sounds good too, you got this.