i just re-read a post titled: "Frame: Defining yourself as a "sexual being" (sexual frame) from the onset can make escalation significantly easier" and i get the message but i want to understand how to do it basically i escalate often and early, and next girls who won't budge (even after pulling back)?
also i learned that i have to lead more and better. i don't approach a lot and don't get a lot of dates. still a little fat, just returned to lifting
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Yep.
Also be unapologetic if it goes or the girl hesitates. And be happy to talk about sexual matters (the girl will often steer the conversation that way). You can talk about sex, kinky sex, all of it...... you just can't talk about having sex WITH HER.
Knowing smiles, comfort chatting about sexual topics, all these things imply you're happy and comfortable and getting regular sex.
Correct
Okayweregettingsomewhere 2y ago
Wait so when you say "you just can't talk about sex WITH HER." So like, if I'm at a party and I want her to know that I want to fuck her or escalate past touching and flirting. I wouldn't ever say, "I wanna fuck/kiss you so bad"? if so, what could I do instead?
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
Edited for clarity: "you just can't talk about having sex WITH HER."
kiss: maybe if it works for you
fuck: hell no. instantly removes plausible deniability.
That's what I mean. You can talk about what you enjoy sexually and what you've done. But don't talk about having sex with her.