Hey fellas. Went to the bar tonight with friends and didn't drink any alcohol. I wanted to pull girls tonight instead of being smacked.
I danced my ass off and had a great time BUT I wanted to get some pussy. Problem: everytime I came up to a girl to talk to or dance with them. Their friends all pull her back like I was a foul beast tryin to kidnap her. Or I approach a girl and she just coldly just looks away or walk away.
It hurt but I kept trying. In the end, I didn't get anything, not even a number. But I had a blast, unlike my friends just standing around with expensive drinks in their hands.
Mind you, my smv ain't all that. I'm working on improving my smv, been dieting and lifting. 5'10 @ 250lbs. I know it's bad, but I wanna get my approach anixety out the way now and build a solid foundation even if I get rejected over and over.
• My question: is a club a hard place to get pussy cuz of girls being in groups? Should I just approach women throughout my day instead? Or is it cuz my smv is just dog shit it turns girls off?
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CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 4y ago
I think you answered your own question. It's your SMV. Clubs are, more than any other place in a city, the arena where it's accepted that people are trying to hit on women and get laid. Everyone knows this. If their friends really were pulling them away from you it's because they were "saving" her from you because something about your physical appearance, behavior, or body language signalled to them you weren't worthy. Sorry to be the bearer of bad news. On the plus side your attitude is very good, combine that with work on your SMV and you're on a good path.
warshadow518 4y ago
Thank you. I appreciate the advice
Random_Throwaway_000 4y ago
I concur, OP continue on your path. It's suppose to be hard right now. It'll be hard until you're 90% of the way done your journey. Accept it as a part of your life.
For motivation: Ask yourself what you are willing to sacrifice today, for a decade of amazing life experiences in a decade? Time, while valuable, is provided to you in excess while you are young, to be invested wisely, in order to reap future returns.
You'll be shocked how easy the club is when you are a lean 200 lbs benching 250lbs and have 0 approach anxiety. But you're probably at least 3 years away if you put 100% effort in every day until then. Will you?
warshadow518 4y ago
I screen shotted this to read daily. I appreciate the realistic 3 year mark. Feels so far and this journey is lonely. Trying not to drink cuz I'm trying to lose the fat but at the same I wanna go out yet I have dickhead friends constantly bitching I'm not drinking. Strength through Sacrifice. I'm ready to change for the better. Thank you for the advice bro
drake 4y ago
You will always be sabotaged by her friends; orbiter guys or slutty girls who aren't getting any attention for themselves.
When approaching them, take a friend as a wingman so he can chat the other girl (even if she's ugly as fuck)
warshadow518 4y ago
Dude I even spoke to fat girls/uglos and I still got shit responses. I aint a ugly guy but got the body fat but until I melt it off, we'll see how responses will be in the future. I appreciate the comment. Thanks dude
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
Most girls are mostly looking for attention most of the time.
If you want to pull on the dancefloor: get there early and dance energetically for 2-3 songs by yourself or with a friend or a girl. Look like you're having an amazing time. Girls will appear. Most are looking for fun rather than sex. Escalate to find out.
Great!
AWESOME ATTITUDE!
Not hiding from women, still approaching. Good work!
But do get that fucking bodyfat off your bones.
Also noise, girls going to dance and get attention, etc.
YES YES YES
Also yes.
warshadow518 4y ago
Thank you man. Imma do everything I can to melt this fat off. I got a long way to go through hell but this community gives me hope that life will get better as long as I sacrifice and put in the work. Thanks for the feedback