So my plates usually hit me up and chase me without me having to do much work. They'll message me first and then we'll sort something out. This is going pretty well for me and it works well for the mentality of acting like you are the prize. The flip side is what should I do when I want them but they haven't messaged me? How often should I be the one who messages first, and how much time should I wait after the last meeting before I do it?
For example it's been 3 days since I saw my most recent plate. Every day she sends me a nude in the morning when she's getting dressed, but today she hasn't and I want to see her tonight but she hasn't got in touch at all. Not sure if and how I should be the one who chases her this time.
mattyanon Admin 5y ago
Message them
Great that you wait till after meeting to do it! Anytime from 2 to 15 days is fine, best to keep it random/unpredictable though.
You hitting them up first: anywhere between 30 and 70% is fine.
Be aware that you putting in effort can make girls lazy. Don't let that stop you, but be aware of the fact. Ignore them for a while if they stop putting in effort.
DEFINITELY NOT THIS TIME!
Here's why:
Look at what happens: "three days I sent him nudes.... and the one time I ignore him, he invites me over. I like to be invited over. hmmmmm ok, I see how this works".
In short: DO NOT REWARD BAD BEHAVIOUR.
So, you are aware that your active behaviour can make people lazy. And you don't want to reward bad behaviour.
So here's a plan:
"I was going to invite you over today, but you forgot to send me a nude".
You'll have a pic within the hour, you've not rewarded bad behaviour, you've maintained prize status.
Doubleaxe90 5y ago
Lead, call and set the date.
When you want to have sex, initiate and set the logistics or if they happen to initiate first you do it then, plates don't need comfort and non sexual attention, they get that from orbiters. You should meet once per week, have more plates and be busy with your life also.
Calling to tell her when to get that ass ready is not chasing, you are overthinking.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 5y ago
Alright thanks man, you're right I'm over thinking things. I'm not giving them non sexual attention so it should be fine like you say. Right now it's a holiday week in this country so we all have a lot of free time, I'm sure once I get back to work on Monday this issue will go away again.
l0ungefly 5y ago
It sounds like you are in a good spot with this plate. I assume you've waxed her a couple/few times. What I like to do when I sense the push/pull (pull from her side) is its ok to give a little push her way. Send her something saying..
"I was just thinking about you.. we're gonna have a great time tonight." Throw her a scrap (nothing more though) don't ask a question where it makes it look like you are needy for her reply. Just a simple statement.. something to get her thinking about you, and draw her back in. Then you pull the fuck away unless the next message is about setting up plans to hook up.
You've got the right overall mentality of letting them chase you. Once a plate didn't hit me up for 3 weeks. I sensed it was a game and didn't say a peep for 3 weeks to her, then she came crawling back like a submissive dog coming back to it's master.
I had her; she knew it and I knew it. Game, set, match.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 5y ago
Thanks for the reply my dude. 3 weeks is certainly doable, I've done it, but only with low ranking plates who I don't really care about that much lol if it's my favourite (which the one I mentioned in OP is) I have a hard time playing that waiting game, certainly for that long.
l0ungefly 5y ago
Bro, I had to do this with my top plate. Sometimes you gotta pull their punk card, to let em’ know where you stand. Dude I’m an older bro, respect the experience.. you’re slipping into oneitus when it seems like you are already a man of abundance. You can do what you want… My advice is just here to help.
CAPTAINSKINNYPENIS 5y ago
OK, thanks for the sage advice