Met a girl from Bumble today (it's a holiday in this country so everyone's off work all week). It was hot and steamy in the chat and we met at a coffee place and within 20m we were leaving to go to my apartment. We had a lot of great sex, she told me I was great at it, and she was fishing for compliments in return. We went out to grab some takeaway, and while waiting for the takeaway she went on this spiel about how she doesn't believe in love and she doesn't want a relationship. All she asks is that I don't give her an STD I catch from someone else. We went back and ate, had round 2, and in my arms by the end before she left she was saying "I really like hanging out with you" (we'd been talking a lot between sessions). She said as she was leaving "oh, I'm probably leaving in October, so we can do this until then".

I stayed quiet and just gave a light grin during all of the tests about her hinting me fucking other girls, and played it totally cool and nonchalant, just agreeing all the way when she was talking about love and relationships. Obviously I'll pay attention to her behaviour going forward and not the things she says to me, and it's still really early days with this plate, but what do you think women are thinking when they talk this way? Do they believe what they say or are they knowingly testing you to see how you react?

It's triggered in me the "challenge accepted, I will make her fall for me" mentality, and I'll have to be careful not to confuse this for what it is and get oneitis down the line (especially since we had great sex which can confuse your rational thinking).

How many of you have had a girl tell you outright "I'm not looking for a relationship" and how did it turn out? Looking for some fun anecdotes of women saying one thing and doing another.