As far as a resource goes: the ultimate open relationships manual by black dragon. It details the setting up and maintaining of open relationships. It works. It starts with an early frame announcement (EFA) which implicitly lets her know what you're about - not monogamous, etc.. whatever your case may be.

As far as her not sleeping with other men I don't really see a way to force that situation from happening. I think making it clear that's what you want out of the situation would only push her to pursue other guys - jealousy/shit-test, play to get you to commit, etc.

How I do see a situation like this happening is if:

• your SMV is way higher than any other guy on her radar
• she's so in love with you that she doesn't even want to be with any other guy (linked to low n-count, the less dicks she's had the more she can love any one dick)
• you fulfill all her 'alpha' and 'beta' desires: i.e. comfort and dread - high attraction AND satisfaction

In short I think it's more likely to happen organically, as they say.

So you want to have your cake and eat it?

Few woman in modern Western society are likely to explicitly accept such a situation over a prolonged period of time. I'm not saying none will.

A woman recently suggested exactly that to me: she knew I was sleeping with other women; she said she had no problem with that as long as I didn't tell her about it; she would never ask to have children with me or live with me; and she wouldn't have sex with anyone else, as she preferred to have sex with only one man at a time; but she wanted me to treat her and present her as my girlfriend when she was with me. (She was French, though, so it is not so unusual).

It was a great deal; unfortunately, I didn't want to do that with her.

Most women will see it as inherently unfair and reject an explicit set-up of that kind.

With most women I have implicit arrangements, where they know or suspect I am having sex with other women, they are free to do the same, but they don't, because they don't feel like it. I don't tell them unless they ask me (I won't lie).

I think this approach is actually better: she does not feel you are imposing rules; but she follows them anyway.

That said, if you really do care about her having sex with other men, sooner or later she likely will. To test you, to make you jealous, to play with your heart.

So the best approach of all, in my opinion, is to lose that jealousy, so you cannot be manipulated through it. Accept that she can and, at some point, will have sex with someone else. Then when it happens, it cannot touch you and you cannot be manipulated by it.

Suggest it. And be prepared to lose her almost immediately. There is about a 99.9 percent chance that you won't be able to pull this off.

This is some advanced level shit that isn't for most guys. Even the best will have a super low retention rate.

I'm just saying some girls will ,"tolerate", it for a very short amount of time before bailing.