Got a female friend I’ve known for years, she used to always disappear a lot when she had a bf but would still keep in contact with me vaguely. Over the last few months I’ve been round to hers a few time and chilled.
To me the first rule of having female friends is you don’t go for friends you would like to fuck and I did that, my smv is higher and I’m very confident in who I am and where I’m going. I gave her some advice on a guy she was seeing a few times, not on how to attract him but I told her to stop whinging that he’s got kids and she can’t be his priority and she wouldn’t want to be his number 1 deep down etc. I’m quite open about how I see things and she seems to just agree with everything I say. She often cooks for me when I go round and we just chill and I go, it’s good social time for me.
Anyway last night she started messaging me saying ‘what you doing?’
I said I just got in
Her: ‘I need a fag’ ‘Just going home’ ‘So drunk lol’
I just didn’t reply and she messaged me again this morning saying wow my head is banging, I don’t know how people do this all the time lol
My point is this, I don’t really wanna fuck this chick because it’ll mess up a friendship, but if she’s getting feels and is gonna get butt hurt and ruin the friendship after then I may as well just smash
This behaviour was really uncommon for her, some of you more experienced guys who’ve had girl mates who know your value, did they ever get tingles and is the friendship done if you reject them?
pfeilmacher 4y ago
This is a great example why men should never let their LTRs have guy friends.
mattyanon Admin 4y ago
wtf? she's a friend you don't want to fuck, so don't fuck her.
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Ketogainsmongoose 4y ago
If you value the "friendship" you have with her now, don't change the dynamic. If you don't, go ahead and smash and enjoy the time you've got left.
Decide what you can live with
It's very easy for a girl FRIEND to get drunk and hamster her way to having sex with you. The decision is left up to you but unless you make sexual feelings overt, there is a good chance you guys will continue to stay friends
Musicgoon425 4y ago
Bro..... Have you forgot that you're steering your ship? No one gets to fuck you unless you let them.
Don't lie to us or yourself or us. If you wBt to fuck this girl, go ahead. If you don't, then don't go ahead....
I've fucked my fair share of women then dialed it back to friendship. The dynamic changes a bit, but it's usually ideal. It's a good friend that once or twice a year you fuck just to get it out of your system and keep the friendship strong.