So, these guys are homies to me for 8 years. They are in LTR for 1.5 year and 2 years.
I have met both of their LTRs. By the description of their daily behaviour and how my homies have to deal with them on daily basis, it seems these girls definitely have BPD. I am 200% sure of it. We are 18 year olds.
I don't want my so close friends to ruin their youth on this "the one" girl they have found.
I can't just point them to askTRP.
But, I also can't see them in such suffering that they have to keep up with bullshit of their "GFs".
Physically they are in very good shape.
When I ask them to let's go to bars and bring girls home, usually I have to go alone. And they never act on IOIs, they don't approach and say to me, "I have one girl, why would date other?" What the fuck dude is my reaction. How do I just fucking let them know that this mentality they have is just gonna fuck them up in very near future.
One friend is also even considering to LDR her. I feel bad because they are my friends after all.
Enlighten me, elders of TRP.
nigger 2y ago
be there if they reach out to you but, otherwise, stay in your lane.
RedAnon 2y ago
But I have to agree here that nothing will likely come of your efforts to be Captain Save-a-bro.
RedAnon 2y ago
For the LDR case, your angle is to show him how BPD chicks cheat in LDRs.
For the other, dunno. You got any good girl pals you can set him up with, even in a soft tag-alomg kind of way? Sometimes all it takes to open a man's eyes is seeing how there are non-battlecunt women out there that are actually pleasant to be around.
I'm trying to convince my younger brother to ditch a toxic bitch, as well, but he lives far away. Come to think of it, are these guys' moms BPD bitches? It's really hard to break those models that men grew up with. Also, BPD=crazy in the sack, which is the male equivalent of chicks being attracted to assholes.
gradual_level_rape 2y ago
To be honest, I made this post because just yesterday one of them said to me that "I got be help her when she has mental problems." I read him out loud the symptoms of BPD and told him to say "yes" anytime he thinks his chick shows one of the symptoms. He told "yes" to 8 out of 9 symptoms. So, he literally thinks she is a unicorn and wants to help her out of it. If he continues this, he will waste his youth.
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
100% with each brain hemisphere?
Mostly be there for them when it all goes wrong. Which it will.
Men simply won't listen to you saying anything bad about their unicorn.
You might secretly buy them a copy of a book about BPD people.
gradual_level_rape 2y ago
I told the symptoms of BPD to one friend and he said most of them are in his chick. Now he is aware of it. I know he won't just leave that girl, just because I said that to him. Now what can I do?
mattyanon Admin 2y ago
I don't think there is anything more you can do.
candles 2y ago
I dated a BPD for 4 years and have read books on it. My guess is your friends haven't told you enough to know for sure if the girls are BPD, because normal women will act crazy if the guys are complete pushovers- they get disgusted and resentful.
Post what you know and I'll tell you. But the biggest two indicators are 1. self-harm at an adult age (always cutting and/or purging [with/without binging]), 2. cycles of splitting which from a 3rd person point of view is just constant breakups and getting back together.
gradual_level_rape 2y ago
indicator no.1 is shown by chick of one friend and no.2 by another. Constantly. You got spot on. And these are main reasons, I want to open their eyes. They are fit and get IOIs from more stable good looking chicks. But, they are so blind to act on them as they consider they have secured a unicorn. What now, should I leave them to learn the hard way?