When does a dominant male speak? Does he defend himself in every conflict, or doesn't he bother any accusations/insinuation/manipulative behavior from others?
When the alpha is quiet is it because of fear, or because of cleverness?
I come to the conclusion that I didn't open girls, out of fear. Fear that another guy could be bigger, so not making a move (when in/with a group). Fear of not having anything to say. Telling yourself that you don't care about that girl.
So when do you know that you are quiet not because of fear, but because it is the smartest thing to do? What to do about fear? What to learn, in group form or one on one?
Musicgoon425 5y ago
Don't get caught up in arguments. Don't DEER. Don't emote to women or coworkers. Do make your intentions known and advocate for yourself. Do speak your mind and do give praise when it is due.
jeunpeun99 5y ago
Thanks! Very clear. This will be my creed for the next few months, until it is in every fiber of my body.
And with "Don't DEER" you mean, not your problem don't involve yourself?
Musicgoon425 5y ago
Defend, Explain, Excuse or Rationalize.
What you said is what you said. End of story. It keeps you out of arguments or playing defense.