It was fun but I feel like a failure. Couldn’t get it up until until about 5 minutes in. Couldn’t finish. The girl was amazing and understanding but I can’t but help feel fucking terrible. I can literally speed masterbate in like 2 minutes but for some reason 20 minutes of rough sex couldn’t get me to climax. How do I fix this?
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ReeeeDrumpf 5y ago
You have porn dick. Once you get regular sex you can hop on NoFap and fix your addiction.
mairomaster 5y ago
Did I miss something or there is a whole lot of speculation going around here? The guy never mentioned he watches a lot of porn or something, from what I can see.
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ReeeeDrumpf 5y ago
He's 22, first time he has sex he should have exploded. He couldn't get hard for a while then couldn't cum. Class porn dick symptoms. He's too sensitive to cum to anything but his hand.
mairomaster 5y ago
And both of those often come from anxiety. The same happened to most of my male friends and to me included. None of us was addicted to porn/masturbation. I've also seen plenty of such cases on the web. Sure, it can be cause from excessive masturbation as well, but to jump on that conclusion directly without knowing the person is just dumb IMO.
After the first few times I had sex I had no problems cuming super quickly during sex. That is a solid proof that it was caused by anxiety and not lack of sensitivity!
wessyy 5y ago
Happens to a looooot of people the first time. Including me. Lot of guys can't cum because of the nerves.
JayRedCorn 5y ago
1.) Leave the porn alone 2.) never jerk off again
ssuperiormen 5y ago
This! The formula to getting laid. You will become more focused by throwing porn out the window. Fake sex / real sex. What would you choose?
mairomaster 5y ago
That sounds like some no-fap bullshit. Unless you can get really regular sex (once every two days or something), masturbation is healthy for you. It's also most probably not relevant to his case - it's totally normal not to be able to finish during your first time due to anxiety.
throwaway210013 5y ago
I totally agree bro- who cares about the downvotes. If you’re walking around not getting girls, you’re just gonna look super thirsty cause you’re gonna be a total horndog. Just makes the situation worse. People don’t understand that the masturbating isn’t the bad part- it’s the porn.
lowerbackpain2208 5y ago
I used to think like you till I quit porn. Porn fries your brain, you don't even realize how much it does.
mairomaster 5y ago
Nah bro, you just need to have some self control. Don't jerk off 5 times a day and don't spend an hour of your day watching porn and you will be fine.
ssuperiormen 5y ago
In don’t believe in nofap too. But what I do indeed know is that you will become more desperate for sex if you quit any sort of behavior that bypasses our need for sex. If he becomes more desperate, he will be able to concentrate on getting laid with greater focus.
mairomaster 5y ago
Yeah but the thing here is that it was his first time. It's totally normal not to be able to cum during your first time. So he probably doesn't have a problem at all. That is his only concern. And here people are coming and giving him advices how to get more girls and shit like that. Nobody asked for those?!
DangerM02 5y ago
Deluded
mairomaster 5y ago
Care to elaborate maybe? Oh wait, just checked your profile, all your comments are lazy ass one liners.
DangerM02 5y ago
Ad hominem
mairomaster 5y ago
Lazy ass indeed.
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mairomaster 5y ago
More laziness and complete lack of will to use some brain and express a proper opinion supported with arguments.
DangerM02 5y ago
You’re not very smart are you.
mairomaster 5y ago
I don't know bro, several IQ tests suggested >130 IQ.
Liberal_On_Guns 5y ago
Not uncommon at all. I didn't get off my first time, either. Neither did she. Don't sweat it, man, it gets better.
I mean, it's not going to make you feel better right this second, but you'll laugh about this in the future I promise.
Unbannable_1721 5y ago
Thanks brother appreciate it!!!
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comcain 5y ago
Congrats on losing your V-card. It wasn't that big a deal, now was it? Remember this feeling.
Girls will try to charge you insanely high prices to get more of this. But remember when it was over, and you breathed a sigh of relief?
Next time you'll have more fun. Almost everyone is too nervous the first time to have any fun.
Cheers
Unbannable_1721 5y ago
No it really wasn’t!!!
alphaonthecomeup 5y ago
I didn’t finish my first time either and I was very let down. All that hype for this ...
It gets better. You’ll learn how to focus and nut when you want too as time goes on.
MusicgoonV2 5y ago
If I sat some random person who had never played piano before and asked the to play me some great concerto do you think they would be able to do that?
It's your first time bro. I didn't know what the fuck I was doing the first time.
Unbannable_1721 5y ago
Thanks bro
xxx69harambe69xxx 5y ago
Nice.
Remarkable-Paper-814 5y ago
No biggie, happened to me as well and it wasn't my first time. Alcohol/porn/nerves can do that to you. If the girl is proper and not some hoe, I offered my oral services when I couldn't wake the little guy up so as to not allow the girl leave empty-handed, works like a charm (well, half of a charm, as you end up with blue balls, but still, lol).
NinoZachetti 5y ago
I see far too much "porn is poison" here, and I've seen no empirical evidence that fapping a reasonable amount does any damage. Clearly this was an issue of nerves, which can certainly short-circuit your ability to get and stay hard (it's called "performance anxiety"). Shake it off, work on abundance, and you'll be just fine.
mairomaster 5y ago
This should be the fucking top comment, not all of this quit porn bullshit which was totally unasked for and irrelevant in this post.
Jamahamakaze 5y ago
Did you give yourself such a hard time the first time you rode a bike and fell off!?
At least you didn't come in a minute flat dude.
RP is useful, but it's also sometimes useful to remember you're just a human being.
falecf4 5y ago
First time, no biggie. It can be similar to this with first time partners even with experience. It can just take getting more comfortable with the situation.