I was talking about this with my brother recently and it turned into an interesting conversation. It is most men's hope to find a partner that they can build a life together with and if you ask women they will claim to desire the same. However, my experience with women always feels adversarial at a primal level. Women will constantly push for power and every time I concede enough for a woman to feel equal with me this inevitably leads to her trying to be on top of me - and not in the fun way. If that happens, the moment she gains the power, the relationship is over. I have not met a woman who is content with feeling equal and maintaining that. It seems to me then that at the primal-emotional level a power game is being played and men and women are never truly partners. They are always adversaries who occasionally call a truce when it serves their interest and engage in emotional combat when it does not.
Is this really the reality we live in? That relationship are inherently adversarial? Can a man ever truly relax in relationship with a woman, or must he always be ready to fight and win should the need arise? Because that sounds fucking exhausting and I don't know how ya'll in LTRs and marriages do it...
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CaptNoMarriage 3y ago
I think it as Leykis who years ago said that you have guys trying to get as much ass as they could for as little time/money/effort as possible and women trying to give up as little ass as they could for as much money/time/effort as they can get.
carnold03 3y ago
Have you or your brother watched and scrutinized the media targeted at the female segment of the population?
Ventrego 3y ago
Based on observations of my parents and in-laws, several generations: happy male-female couples settle where the tension is down to a low simmer. She shit tests a little, he pushes back, they both chuckle and laugh it off. Balance is restored. If you get to a place where both people know what's expected and how they contribute, that's usually a pretty good place.
When do you get to completely relax from the male-female dynamic? Sports weekends. Hunting trips. Motorcycle rides. Action movies.