Hi asktrp,
Long story short. I have this group of friends that I usually hang around. A girl in this group, let's call her S, and I started to have a FWB relationship (had sex 3-4 times) . Last Wed, she called me out for a walk and told me that she no longer wanted to be FWB and just be friend. I just stupidly said 'okay' and left it as is. What can I learn from this? Should I have done anything better to retain her? She is definitely a ONEtitis for me since she is the only person that I currently have sex with.
Lionsmane8 3y ago
I think an aloof "okay" was a good response. Others might digress but i would've said "i'm not interested in friendship". Last you want to do in my opinion is to become her friend (unless you want to), or to become bitter and go on full delete her contact and shit. Like a sales lead you never know when the old customer might come back knocking on your door. The ground rule would be to have abundance of poon and not develop oneitis. She probably sensed she was your only option, and for a girl interestd in D only that's a turn off. She essentially friendzoned you. Find other pussy, keep a detached contact, and eventually she'll recircle back and ask to be one of your plates later on.
DeepC1980 3y ago
Saying 'Okay' is the right thing to say to a LJBF. Now you just need to delete her from your contacts and block her. It's time to next her, otherwise you're just going to be an orbiter for her.
She'd get into a relationship yesterday for the right guy, it's not you. You should learn not to get emotionally attached to a girl. She's not special, and is just as shitty a person as everyone else.
Just keep working on yourself and keep approaching women. Best thing to do is just fuck other women, once you do this it won't even matter.
arakouzo 3y ago
Not enough information to figure out if you did anything right or wrong, but your response was fine. Just shrug, say okay, and go on with your life. If she goes back to making excuses to be around you and spend time with you, escalate and see what happens. If she's down, she's down. But most likely, she's not going to want to be around you, or if she is, she'll probably fire back with "what are you doing i said i don't want that any more" at which point you shrug and say okay and go on with your life.
What you need to do is start having sex with other women. That prevents the loss of any one woman like this one from mattering too much.