I've been in monk mode for a while..can't really tell how long, but it's been at least 9 months since when I last went out gaming women.
It was a must for me to go monk mode then, as women were my focus in life and my virginity was fucking with my head.
I eventually lost my v card to a pro (not regretting it at all for anyone wondering) and managed to find out what path to take in my life. I was lost as fuck, for real.
In these months I improved my physique quite a lot (even though I've been lifting for 4 years already) and learned new things every day in multiple subjects of life. Philosophy, psychology, business, finance, etc.
As I'm a Senior in HS, my SMV is quite great considering there are no jacked guys in my school, and chicks send me IOI's often.
What's the problem, you might ask.
Well, in these months, by completely stopping to practice game, I feel like I have to start over. In a few words my game got much weaker. If I had no problems escalating before, then now I find myself doubting if I have to touch a girl's ass. Perhaps it's because I stopped reading game related stuff and lost the right mindset regarding women.
The problem is that I find it hard to both game women and focus on my mission. Once I start thinking about women, those thoughts take control over my mind. Just like an astonishing distraction. Distracting me from what is truly important.
But at the same time, I feel like I'm missing out.
I've lost so many opportunities just because I didn't escalate or approached girls who were interested in me.
I know it's stupid saying I'm missing out by not fucking chicks when I'm still 19, but to be honest I learnt that time is golden and saying that "I have time" is an advice that can both relieve me from this "fear" of future regret and both make me end up in a cycle of inaction and rationalization for not gaming women and the last thing I want is to get 25 and still have made no progress with women. I fear stagnation more.
My mission is to graduate high school and after that working towards entrepreneurship. It's a large vision and I'm still figuring out the small steps to take that will get me there.
What's your advice on this? Should I first get used to my mission and only then start letting my mind think about women?
Is my fear of missing out legit or stupid?
I also thought about graduating high school and then starting going out almost everyday doing daygame. That's a promise I made myself. I'm not gonna lie and say "I don't want to get better with chicks", I do want to get better, and I know the are no shortcuts but going out and getting shot down thousand times before becoming great at it.
I accept critics and everything. Thank you.
vas_mhtro 7y ago
Everyone says that monk mode should be around 6 months
lifeisweirdasfuck 7y ago
Yeah, point is I still have a shitload stuff to do and to improve on (And I guess I will always think like this, as there's no limit to self-improvement).
I got obsessed with it, but it's clearly ruining me on some level.
replicaplater 7y ago
Your still putting girls on the pedestal or at least focusing on them in a vacuum, its the only reason why its consuming your thought processes (pretty normal for a 19 yo guy tbh). Nothing is stopping you from going after your mission and going after pussy at the same time. Ideally, approaching chicks is just another part of your life that blends in with everything else.
lifeisweirdasfuck 7y ago
That's interesting. I'm not going to lie by saying that what drives my self-improvement is the thought that one day I will be swimming in pussy. And not from a blue-pill prospective, but more like a desire for power and to be chased.
Knowing that my SMV will be high + the more stuff I'll achieve in life, the more I will internalize the prize mentality and a strong frame of reality.
That's one strong motivator though and I'm quite sure sexual energy is the strongest energy indeed.
How should I proceed in your opinion?
I've been obsessing (literally obsessing) about women for like the last 3 years of my life before going monk mode, and I guess my synapses got as strong as a drug addict, and as soon as I start thinking about women, it's hard getting back on track. I don't know if this is the explanation.
replicaplater 7y ago
The obsession thing is kinda typical of people who have addictive type personalities. As I mentioned previously it's also in part because of your age as well, I was there myself and getting pussy was quite the motivating/overwhelming force at times.
As far as how to proceed, work on channeling your obsessiveness into more productive stuff and get a sense of balance. In other words if your going to be obsessing about things, move that focus around to different areas in your life. Your SMV can and will fluctuate as time goes on, it happens to everyone and you'll find that different aspects of your lifestyle become more or less of a factor in your SMV as you get older. What makes you high SMV now may not be as much of a factor 5-10 years down the road.
lifeisweirdasfuck 7y ago
Yeah right now my SMV is pretty high (in my age bracket) due to looks + 4 yrs of lifting but I'm aware that in a few years the sexual market value will be established mainly by financial status. That's why I'm trying to figure out how to retire at 30-40.
Terdmuffin 7y ago
Consider (re)learning game as part of your monk mode. Imo the purpose of monk mode should not be to quit gaming women, but to make yourself the priority. You don't need to be celibate and closed off from women. Sure maybe it means less nights out partying or not getting into a relationship but the purpose of monk mode should be to Jumpstart your own self development and establish good habits. I do think that a good part of self development for most men should include working on game and/or seduction. If you can't game women at all without it noticeaable effect your mission then you need to figure out why that is, becauase that's not healthy way to live. You need to learn how to make women a PART of your life and a part only.