The moment has come.
I'm a long time lurker and in the beginning I used to apply pretty much everything I was reading, but as time passed, I went monk mode (let's say that this is what has fucked up everything) and eventually stopped approaching women, but I kept reading TRP stuff (wrongly).
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I know theory pretty much (that's what reading 2 hours every day does), but I'm sure everyone here agrees on how practice is 90% and theory 10%.
Fact is, my mind fucking hurts. I went on information overload, literally. I feel like my game has worsen and I realised how useless it is to read without even applying. The problem is that I've been doing it without awareness for months. I just realised it recently after a few days I began meditating.
I can't even approach women. I feel like I got back into beta mode, and reading more stuff can only make me more beta. (beware that I used to approach them in the past, but now It feels like I've lost my balls)
While I used to be extra motivated when I read just a few posts and applied it right after, now it feels like I know a lot, but at the same time I know nothing.
What I mean is that even if I consciously know that women want to be approached (and all the other 1000 theories) by alpha males, it seems like I have not internalised that into my subconscious. Or that I used to have it into my subconscious, but I somehow managed to delete it (perhaps by filling my mind with theories and making it go into information overdose)
So eventually, when I go out and I need to approach, no matter how much shit I've read or know about female nature, I feel like I know nothing.
I have not found anything regarding this problem on TRP, neither on askTRP, so I'm trying to figuring out how to deal with all this shit. I can't believe I've been reading so much without applying. I was doing it without realising it, and I'm pretty sure a lot of guys here are doing the same, they are probably not really aware of it.
Perhaps I believed that by reading I would have been a Casanova? Or that women would have not rejected me anymore if I knew by heart all the 2000 posts on TRP? Ah, how delusive I was.
How do I get back into the right mindset? Is it even possible? I feel like I want to reset my mind.
I thought about reading 1, and only 1 post (such as posts for beginners or any other post that has to do with fear of rejection (because apparently that's what I'm experiencing right now)) and act upon that post. Until I haven't applied what is written in that post, I can't read anything else that has to do with TRP.
What do you suggest me? Thanks in advance.
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Thizzlebot 7y ago
Don't confuse monk mode with being a scared little bitche that never makes a move. People fall back on that lie way too often. Just get out there and try. You're can read every fucking book on painting but you are not really a painter until you put some paint on paper.
lifeisweirdasfuck 7y ago
Spot on. Monk mode is for guys who’ve been fucking women regularly. I’m not the case unfortunately so I should avoid going monk mode for real.
positiveredpill 7y ago
Just go out and have fun. Apply what you know. Don't listen to the shit talking cunts on this forum. Do your thing.
look_good 7y ago
You already know what you need to do. Quit looking for validation, take action.
derrtderr 7y ago
You should definitely read the entire sidebar again.
chazthundergut 7y ago
So instead of taking action you come on here to talk about it?
Take action. Stop reading about it. Stop talking about it. Start being about it.
BrutalMan420 7y ago
what a dumb fucking problem. jesus christ cunt. go approach some women and run some game. thats your answer to this long shitty post. go outside nerd.
OfficerWade 7y ago
Women lead you on even if you don’t think they are attractive or feel anxious about the relationship ending the way the last one did. You have tools but you don’t use them. You must approach.
zeekt12 7y ago
You couldnt have said it better. Im in the same boat fam... and I feel like it got to my ego too “knowing” about trp and intersexual dynamics.
MrCongeniality1 7y ago
A lot of TRP posts enforce a PUA-style mindset. Sometimes the posts are flat out PUA stuff, but sometimes it's about an experience and commenters are pointing out where things went wrong, but it's easy to walk away thinking you need to memorize some rules. You recognize that memorizing a bunch of rules isn't working. You are right, it won't. Ignore all the PUA stuff; there is solid TRP advice for self-improvement that will raise your SMV. I was pretty awkward before I started lifting at 19. After I had made a lot of gains, I saw a pretty girl at a restaurant and just went over and asked for her number (got it, dated her). I didn't have a line, I didn't even think much about it. I had actual SMV and acted like it, I wasn't trying to trick anyone with my "game".
CharlesChadworth 7y ago
Youtube (Tom Torero) day game. Kinda outlines the structure you need to set instead of going in there and winging it. Might give you a bit more confidence approaching as you see him with a few students using this technique.
Go out have fun meet girls even if it's just to complement at first. Make it a game.
RobertCarraway 7y ago
You discovered this problem... and your first thought was... let me post about this??? W.T.F.