I'm trying to implement this post in my day to day usage. ( Link - Here )
Just now, a situation occured that made me wonder about it's usage, because I'm not sure what's the right approach here. A woman asked me -
"Why are you buying the 2x smaller packages if the big ones are cheaper?" (They are not cheaper because the 2x smaller ones are on sale). Now, even though I could technically "explain" myself and be "right", it goes against DARE'ing. If I DARE instead, however, I don't neccessarily accomplish that I am right. Perhaps not proving that I'm right is exactly the purpose, that I don't care if I am or not.
To me, it feels like even in situations like these, although it's counter-intuitive at first glance, I should DARE to :
- Not care about proving how "right" or "wrong" I am.
- Not take her seriously about anything she says.
- It puts me in a "practice" mode and in a state of natural DARE'ing
- etc
Is DARE'ing only for shittests? Or in situations like these, I should still follow the principles?
Chit-Chad 7y ago
Curious to hear other perspectives, but here's my take - Depends on the situation, DAREing is essentially a tool to stop qualifying yourself to a woman (or anyone for that matter) by providing excuses or explanations.
If in this case the woman was genuinely curious as to why you made that decision, explain in as few words as possible (i.e, the 2x smaller ones are on sale actually etc.)
If it was more like a shit test, then DARE. You have to be the judge of the mood, sometimes questions are just questions and not shit tests.
moltenw 7y ago
That's kinda what I'm trying to get here at - do you DARE "normal" questions from women anyway? I don't see an upside to DEER'ing them in any form of way, so I'm wondering if it's wrong of me to DARE all the time in regards to women.
Chit-Chad 7y ago
To be honest, no. Being straightforward and concise can often display a good, stoic frame and being able to answer a question in few (important) words displays a command on language.
If her question was more along the tone of "Why didn't you just buy the bigger box, you stupid?", then I'd DARE because the girl's clearly not interested in the boxes, she's interested in how you respond - aka a shit test.
If her question was more along the lines of "curious as to why you made the choice", then I'd just answer in one line. Questions can be answered without explaining, took me a while to realize that. Give them important bits of info, let them figure out the rest. If they can't, they'll ask follow up questions or just shut up.
oytrp 7y ago
The point is to never argue with women.
Was she actually arguing with you or asking a question/trying to save you money?
redhawkes 2 7y ago
"the best things come in small packages", obviously don't look at your dick.
The thing is, she ain't paying for your shit or is in any way an authority, you don't owe her any explanation. Think Amused Mastery.
boy_named_su 7y ago
"Because I want to"
"What are you, an accountant?"
You should have faith that you're making the right decision. And that your decision is better than her decision
Or that the decision is so trivial that it doesnt matte
moltenw 7y ago
This is exactly what I think about this whole ordeal.
So basically, I should just DARE everything a woman says, no matter how small since I know I'm making the right decision...that's what I'm getting at, at least.
boy_named_su 7y ago
It sounds to me like she's trying to get you to justify yourself
Yup
moltenw 7y ago
Aight, cool.