Hi guys,

I have a younger brother, now 27, in the process of divorce whom I don't know what to do with.

He doesn't have a job, any productive hobby, any goal or ambition. He just sits at home (lives with parents)and surfs net or Facebook all day. He has been like this since he was a teenager. On some level its our fault because he has been spoiled since the start. He pretty much got everything he asked for and my father almost never said no to him. Now he lives on pocket money and keeps draining money.

He has immense pride, even though I have no idea what for.

He recently took a decent amount of money from dad and gave it to his friend who earned a little on that money and gave it back. He considers that his earnings. Even though he didnt do anything to earn them. He has almost no shame in buying new clothes or gadgets with that or my dads money.

I constantly worry about him, my parents do too. But we have no idea what to do with him. Because of the legal battle the family is fully supportive and he makes it an excuse (although a little valid) to not work since he will have to show his earnings in court during alimony settlement.

But i wish he just work on himself. In any way, learn a skill, join gym. Anything.

I am pretty sure someone has gone through similar situations, I cant be the only one. You can argue that i should let him decide and not bother him/mind my own business, but its affecting the rest of the family, including me psychologically.

Do you guys have any idea what should I do, where to start, any tricks to get him interested in anything ?