Hey TRP
So as the post title suggests, I really need some help on banging this girl, but I need some fundamental advice because I'm bad at escalation.
- Background -
I met her because she was the secretary at the same office as me, but as a rule i dont fuck coworkers, so even though i noted some tension, i ignored it. she then left the company so i started hitting her up and stuff cuz i got her number, so we met up at her place after work one night and then i was like "hmm would be a good time to try and escalate" tried it didnt really take. messaged her a few days later, no answer, then 3 days after i messaged her i she messaged me back and we started chatting again.
- current situation -
because i am admittedly a little awkward about escalating im trying to avoid making the same mistake twice. ive read the sideboards and a few threads on it, but im wondering if theres any advice the community has to offer.
thanks
Wolveryn 8y ago
First of all.
Don’t focus on one girl. Don’t be needy
When she messages you, wait before you reply, be busy with life, if you meet up you meet up. If you don’t you don’t.
And if you do meet up it’s because she’s lucky to get with you
And if you haven’t internalised that yet,.. then you have work to do on yourself.
ECoast_Man 8y ago
Guyzz, helpme try to get grrillzzz
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BlackMarmoset 8y ago
You need practice, you don't become good following other people advice on reddit.
She invited you at her place, that's a big green flag.
I assume you tried to close and she rejected you, it ain't clear.
Doesn't look good, you have another shot, if you're lucky. Since you didn't close at her place, I'd invite her to mine with an excuse (cook dinner, have drinks, whatever) and close the deal.
You didn't provide deals as how you escalated, but it's pretty much just an escalation. You playfully touch her in a neutral spot briefly after a joke, you push/pull her around, you get her more confident on you touching her "casually" (arm on shoulder, hand playing with her hair, and so on), and once she accepts you in her space you can go for the kiss.
I prefer to pull her to me rather than leaning, is more dominant and easier to play like you were joking if she doesn't want to kiss.
MattyAnon Admin 8y ago
oneitis. next.
lostbuthopefull 8y ago
you have oneitis. or atleast it's coming soon
covertRedOps 8y ago
lmao i highly doubt it
NegaoDaPaixao 8y ago
You are making a reddit post about her, about how you are afraid of fucking things up with her.
You messaged her again after she gave you no answer
But yeah, keep doubting that a severe case of oneitis is looming
vandaalen Endorsed Contributor 8y ago
https://www.trp.red/p/mattyanon/260
u r welcome