TRP has really started to teach me how to value myself and my time, and as a result my standards for an LTR have gone way up.
On the other hand, sometimes I waver back and forth on whether I’m being too strict, or too black and white with my standards.
What does your vetting process look like, and what are some red flags that automatically disqualify them for LTR consideration?
Bruchibre 8y ago
It's all about the alchemy but the big red flag for me is the slutty past. When I enter a LTR I consider it possibly for a lifetime. So the drunk hookups, the mutliple FWBs, etc. = I don't want her to be the mother of my future kids.
Another and less common redflag I've had once was religiousness. She was not the first muslim girl I had been in LTR with but when she asked me if I believed in "Darwin's theory of evolution" (like if it had been published recently), told me that she believed that giant humans lived in the past (how do you think they built and carved this? - I think it's still easier than to send a satellite in orbit - that's a convenient truth), it turned me down big time. Then saying that I would need to convert to Islam and that our kids would of course be muslims, I decided not to pursue. (- Why would I convert to Islam and not you to Christianity? - because I believe in Islam. And my parents would be very sad. - My parents would be sad if I became a muslim - oh why? I thought they hadn't given you any religious education - ... year right like I'm an empty recipient waiting for the Truth...).
sumigaeshibjj 8y ago
Dishonesty. Crosses boundaries previously set. Excessive attention seeking. Feels entitled to things they won't trade for. An excessive lack of emotional self control.
freew33zy 8y ago
Personally I like an n-count under 5 excluding me (difficult to ascertain, but worth the investment imo)
I like fun, hot, and good constant sex too
Basically, I want a girl who makes me feel like I'm a G by being hot enough to draw admiration, submissive enough to show I'm not a pussy whipped bitch who doesn't deserve her, and wholesome/pure enough (low N) that I don't worry too much about the constant attention a chick like this is sure to receive. Also, she has to be fun--fuck bland and boring bitches, plates at best.
Bruchibre 8y ago
what's the age of the girls you usually date?
freew33zy 8y ago
I'm in college, so 18-22 (and I prefer the lower end of that scale.)
I don't plan to raise that number after college, though--I will just have fewer options or try to continue dating in the same age range.