19 years old.
Went day gaming, talked to multiple girls, got some numbers. Had a very frame controlled conversation with a 16 year old (Eastern europe, legal here). She even asked me first for the number, good sign. Wrote her on the spot :
"Who's that cute guy you are talking with?"
She started laughing, I hugged her, and was on my way. Afterwards she texted me with a laughing face \~40 something minutes later (didn't open it, for whatever it's worth).
In the evening, I texted her "Maybe you'll even get a chance to get to know me. Are you free on Tuesday/Wednesday?" , and the response I got was - "Hmm, exciting."
I'm... not quite sure how to act an in a situation where they ignore the meeting up. What I'm thinking is :
- I might not have been good enough and have a biased view on the situation.
- Girls her age have very limited experience and play stupid games, which I knew I was probably going to face. Now, whether or not I know how to play these games for my own benefit, that's a different question.
What would your advice be? One option is just nexting her, although this could be an opportunity to learn some texting (I go for logistics with the first text, usually in the 2nd sentence of the message like above. Perhaps it's too fast?) since the blue pill conditioning was kinda strong in this one.
Cheers
redhawkes 2 7y ago
Next time try not to pussyfoot around and be direct. You haven't mentioned a meetup, just a blunt question. Don't ask, tell and lead, be decisive.
The grey zone is the last thing you want.
"I know. Get ready at 8 I'll pick you up."
moltenw 7y ago
That's almost exactly what I was going to write.
So...is "pussyfooting" around even when I go for logistics with one message? I've seen people say you need a small rapport as well, contradicting sources, but I guess that's to be expected considering the amount of people post on TRP. So, I'd like to know - why should you IMMEDIATELY go in for the logistics? What's the argument for it with completely 0 rapport after getting the number?
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The positives I see are :
I agree about this, but I want to hear your opinion on this. In the past, it has led me to dead-ends because she has X or Y on that day. Perhaps I found the wrong cause for this, meaning - I just wasn't interesting enough for her to put away her time, and if she doesn't try to reschedule, you know she's just fucking around with you and you are just wasting your time.
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Huh, writing this helped me.
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One thing I do wonder is - how much realistically CAN you build your attraction when cold approaching? But maybe again, it's like I'm playing to *not* *lose* instead of playing for the win. Learning bad habits is definitely not something I should be doing at this stage.
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redhawkes 2 7y ago
You already know her, no need to overgame as you can step on your own dick and fuckup easy. Hence the saying, text for logistics only. You cannot attract her via text.
The small rapport/banter is needed when you don't know her personally eg. tinder and other dating apps so you don't come off as thirsty/creepy.
It's a numbers game. Always be outcome independent, remember abundance mentality.
It sounds like you have figured out things on your own, so you just need to apply now.
moltenw 7y ago
> It sounds like you have figured out things on your own, so you just need to apply now.
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And that I will.
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Thanks