Hi,
I’m scared of basically everybody. For example:
- At work, I’m scared to ask for help when the work gets overwhelming because I fear looking weak & getting fired for being “weak”.
- I’m considering going to meet my friend for a game of basketball over the weekend in a neighbourhood that was dangerous in my parents’ time, but not anymore. Still, I’m scared of getting shouted at by my parents when I tell them the idea, despite the fact that I’m 21 & have a job.
- I’m scared of saying what I really feel & think to everyone except those on this forum because I’m scared of becoming a pariah & persona non grata.
- I’m scared of talking to girls because I fear that they might charge me with sexual harassment if I make one wrong move, which is career-ruining and life-ruining.
- I’m scared of asking people to do things for me/help me out when I’m stressed out & overwhelmed because I fear looking weak.
- I’m scared of rejection.
- I feel like nobody wants to be my friend & everybody is secretly setting me up to put me in bad situations where I’m embarrassed/humiliated/physically harmed.
- Whenever I see a cop, I start shaking physically.
- When a car tailgates me on the highway, I get scared & don’t want to offend them because my dad always used to tell me when he taught me to drive, “Never be a [city] driver”; the city I live in is notorious for having the worst drivers in my entire country, yet I don’t think the driving there is that bad actually. I also get scared because in my city, cops are notorious for disguising themselves as ordinary cars to get more people with speeding tickets; I really feel like “Big Brother” is watching me all the time.
- I’m scared of getting doxxed.
- Despite being low-SMV, I’m scared of looking like a loser.
- I desperately want to be liked by everybody.
- I want to start my own business or go into sales (an MBTI test & a CareerStrengths year revealed those are the types of jobs I’m actually best for), but I’m scared of the possibility of failure and throwing my career away and being unable to make a living as a result.
How do I stop being scared of people and their reactions to me, especially those who can permanently damage my life/kill me?
idkimsmart 7y ago
Definitely go read no more mr nice guy, its in the sidebar!
Incognito_famous 7y ago
This was a hard read, so I stopped 1/3 in. Grow a pair. Put yourself in stressful situations such as approaching strangers.
richboy297 7y ago
The first thing for you is to look inward and acknowledge that it's okay to be scared and that it's all part of being human. The next big thing is self-love and self-respect. Love the fuck out of yourself and put yourself first always. How can other people like you, if you don't even like yourself. How can people respect you, if you don't even respect yourself. How can people help you , if you can't even help yourself. Tell yourself everyday, "I'll do anything for me". Because at the end day. there's nothing wrong with being selfish for yourself. Once you've accepted who you are, you won't give a shit about what other people think, and you shouldn't. Good luck
makethemflaunt 7y ago
Eat a big breakfast. Eat protein every two hours. Lift. Meditate. Open everyone. Force yourself to talk to random people. Force yourself into difficult situations that make you grow. Find a good therapist that can train you in developing assertiveness.
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This is assuming you've read the sidebar. Have you read the sidebar? --------->
boy_named_su 7y ago
become the scariest animal in the jungle
Get your testosterone checked. Learn to lift heavy things, and learn to fight