I am really struggling socially and find myself being extremely self conscious and not confident. Been this way my entire life even when I looked my best.
The only two things I have really improved the last two months have been stopping porn and eating a good diet. I cold approached girls during the summer when school started but I am too nervous too approach girls during the day.
Anyone want to mentor me?
Red-Lantern 7y ago
Bro. Its on you. The greatest motivation is self motivation.
You have to get calloused. Have so many rejections that it doesn't faze you.
You'll learn what works for you by adaptation.
Best advice is to read the sidebar.
Internalize abundance. Be the prize. Never be content, focus on your goals and execute.
Get out of your own head and way.
Lift
wellhellothere45 7y ago
Thanks for the advice. Literally the only thing I want to do in life is lift but I have a shoulder problem that is still in limbo and people are trying to help me fix it. (as am I)
I think one issue I struggle with is the "right" to do something. I have this weird thought train that if I reached a certain point with my goals that I would then be able to approach, feel more confident. But all of you guys say that is a terrible idea.
Quaternionz 7y ago
Lift. Squats and deadlifts with full weight. Bench, OHP, and rows with light physical therapy-range weights. Consult a doctor first.
RedSkeller 7y ago
I wish I was still so naive to think people actually cared about one another or genuinely wanted to help strangers. The second you start helping yourself the better off you will be and it's the only way, unfortunately.
DropDeadTyrant 7y ago
deep. It's sad people have to think this way. I used to have high expectations. I used to always think people could change. Then, I learned to not expect shit and focus on changing myself.
RedPillQuest 7y ago
Haha. You remind me of myself when I first found TRP. I could see for the first time that I was a complete fuck up and I needed to fix it. I read a post on the sidebar that said essentially, “we know it’s confusing and hard. Don’t worry, we’re here to hold your hand and help you through this.” I read that sentence with a sigh of relief... “phew... I’m so lost. I’m really glad someone’s going to help me.” And then I read the very next sentence: “What the fuck man? Let go of my hand you pussy!” Or something like that, you get the point. I realized in that moment just how big of a beta pussy I really was.
Read the sidebar man. Take responsibility for yourself. Be a man. It’s all there in spades. It’ll seem confusing at first. Just keep at it. Learn, fail, learn from your failures, and grow. You got this.
goblinboglin 7y ago
dude the whole trp and sidebar is a mentor what the arse
derrtderr 7y ago
That shit costs money bruh.
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wellhellothere45 7y ago
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WOLVERINE7117 7y ago
DM me your questions bro.
innominating 7y ago
I take takes questions as well
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