I match with a handful of women every day on tinder/bumble, enough that if I played every hand I’m dealt I’d likely have a successful rotation of plates. However, texting girls on (or off) dating apps bores the fuck out of me. I lose interest almost immediately and I don’t understand how others give up so much of their time so that maybe, possibly two out of ten girls will agree to meet up, one of them will flake, and the other is still not guaranteed to lead to sex.
Might this lack of motivation be testosterone related? Or if when I break my current dry spell from sex will I find this motivation? I’m tired of not getting consistently laid, but having to feign interest in these tinder conversations feels like torture if it lasts longer than a couple messages.
failingtheturingtest 7y ago
The issue is that you're putting effort into these matches.
Get a date within 6 messages. That's all.
Hi
Relate
Relate
Joke at their expense
Fuck this app, let's meet
Great, phone number.
Now you've wasted 30 mins across maybe a couple of days (or same day) and have commitment for a meet up.
The next issue is when you don't have enough time to meet up with them all, which just means you get to raise your standards.
bondbandito 7y ago
Great you've passed the turing test
SmackinDatAss 7y ago
You are more afraid of failing than you are excited about succeeding. It's not a testosterone issue, but rather it's an issue of not growing balls.
Halfchub6969 7y ago
Solution: stop jacking off. Game changer for me in regard to what you’re talking about. When the only sexual release you allow yourself is inside a woman, you get on the hunt like your life depends on it.
goldenhourlivin 7y ago
Alright, I’ll get more serious about not jerking it. I’m already trying to avoid it as much as I can handle and I usually make it between 9-14 days before I relapse, but if that’s what’s holding me back, it’s done.
Halfchub6969 7y ago
Ya man, I’ve found keeping track of days and seeing how long I can go wasn’t the way to do it. It has to be a decision you make as a man, something you will not go back on no matter how hard it gets. When I made the decision, I went from going out with one girl every other week to 3-4 every week. I’ve noticed I also feel happier in general. Truly life changing for me. I’m sure it’ll be the same for you.
ZeppKfw 7y ago
Made me even serious about it. Wise words dude.
Tidalnightmare 7y ago
Then get off the fucking internet and venture out into the real world. It is WAY better to chat women up in real life than online. It trains all sorts of good characteristics in you and you will be shocked at how receptive women are to being chatted up.
dani098 7y ago
Yeah I’m in the same boat, you just need to go meet them sooner
person8445 7y ago
I'm kinda like you. Trp teaches to spin plates; but thats really to teach abundance I think.
Personally I just have 1 (maybe 2) "plates" and then get a new one when they break. I'm happy seeing them once a week and having 4 plates who get to see me once a month is too much for me personally.