We hooked up 10 days ago after we had a fun night clubbing and stuff like that. I hold my frame that evening and everything went perfect it was just like a movie - thanks red pill. We had sex that evening & in the morning. But it feels that somewhere after that I fcked up - or at least I do not know how to move forward without coming of as needy.
I tried to arrange a 2nd "date" last weekend but she hadn't had time because she had family visiting and staying over. After that I didn't try to arrange another date because I was waiting for her to ask for an rearrangement - but there was no initiative from her side regarding meeting up.
She seems disinterested and interested at the same time - she reacts and answers more or less daily to my instagram posts and stories and texts me - I try to keep contact low, not text back immediately, text less, do not answer at all - the regular stuff.
How can I ask AGAIN for a 2nd "date" without coming off needy? However I try to frame it, it comes off as needy. Or should I go zero contact till she reaches out to me?
I am really confused. Sex was great. I made her cum twice. She seemed to have a great time - but it seemed like it was her first hookup - maybe she is ashamed? I don't know. I don't want to waste anymore time on her when there isn't any more sex - so how can I move this forward or at least come to a clear conclusion if she is up for more sex or not?
I am new to this stuff. Will post the evening as a field report soon because I think I did pretty good. I was thinking of just texting her "Do you have time at the end of the week?" - but even this one sounds needy as fuck.

C-ingRed 8y ago
Don't frame it like your plans depend on her, tell her "I'm doing X at this time and place, would you like to join me?"
She was probably just genuinely busy, not necessarily disinterested
enterim 8y ago
Ok understood. I can even do it that way when it is an activity for only 2?
So something like " I am planning to go to the open air cinema on saturday evening. Do you have time to join? Otherwise I will ask someone else"
C-ingRed 8y ago
That's not bad, but it depends on what you're trying to do with her. If you want to watch a movie with her that's fine, but movies aren't a good environment to escalate.
I would suggest something physical like a hike. Not too long of a hike unless you enjoy her conversation, but it's an activity that will leave both of you wanting some food, water, and shade (at your place).
Leave off the part about asking someone else, you want it to be implied that there's someone else. Hell, if you keep it vague enough her hamster will tell her she wasn't the first choice either.
enterim 8y ago
Understood. Thank you very much. I will have no problem to escalate, does not depend on the activity - Was easy last time and will be easy this time as long as she shows up.
Thank you very much and have a great day / life
enterim 8y ago
Update: Arranged an gym date for tomorrow. She just joined my gym so it will be her first time there. Don't know what to do tomorrow ( I have no Idea how a woman should train ) so the date will be freestyle but I will figure it out. I will try to get her to my flat after that. :-)
C-ingRed 8y ago
Good, that sounds perfect. You have a whole workout to come up with a good reason to head back to your place.
enterim 8y ago
Yep once I get her to my place it will increase my SMV even more - right in the town centre, huge and expensive - I know her place so it is not the lifestyle she is used to.
Thanks for your help man, appreciate it
C-ingRed 8y ago
You've got this man!
redpillclub 8y ago
Typically if a chick hooks up with you on the first night, you’re a hookup. Let it go. Hookup with someone else. Enjoy life.
[deleted] 8y ago
I can tell you’re a over thinker my friend. Do it the same way you arranged the first. And stop overthinking.
enterim 8y ago
That's the thing. The last time she asked me to join me and my friends - I had the control. So you think just go for it?
[deleted] 8y ago
Yes. Have fun.
Peter_B_Long 8y ago
Don't text her anymore. Just call her, and ask her out. If you get anything besides a set date, hard next unless she reaches out.
Maybe she has a boyfriend. Who knows. Just call her, invite, move forward or next.