When I was younger (13-14 years old) I used to be that silent guy in the classroom, most likely an asocial guy.
Nevertheless there were some girls (low smv girls) who were attracted to me for some reason.
I never ever gave them attention and ignored them most of the time (I replied to them just to be "nice", but still subconsciously showing sexual disinterest) and instead of moving them away from me, I was unconsciously making them more attracted.
I have decent looks and at that time I had a small job and was lifting, so that might also be the reason it worked. (dhv without even saying a word. It probably would not have worked if I was a fat bald nerd). Unfortunately those were ugly girls, but I noticed it works with almost every girl.
Attractive women should even be more susceptible to this as they are constantly getting attentions from betas.
Investment and Attraction are inversely proportional, right? The less you invest, the more you can attract the girl, and viceversa.
By not giving them attentions (ignoring them completely like they were some trash bin) you are investing little to nothing, and so makes them interested. Yeah I know, this is basic theory for most of you here, but it still seems like most guys (me included really often) fail with women because they are just over-investing.
by u/woujo in "How to Hold Frame":
The archetypal alpha is charming and pleasing in social situations because he wants nothing. He doesn’t talk too much, stand too close, complain, bring his own problems or insecurities into the interaction, talk about shit nobody gives a fuck about, tell people how to live their lives, make jokes only he thinks is funny, ask too many personal questions, give unsolicited advice, push his opinions on people, insult people for his own pleasure, etc… The archetypal alpha is just there to be provide a service to others. But simultaneously, and somewhat paradoxically, to hold his attention you must do something to deserve it first.
Active disinterest probably works only if your SMV is high, otherwise women would not give a fuck about you ignoring them. My SMV is above average and it seems to work fine.
What's your opinion on this? Have you ever tried it in the past and what were the results? Is it the most effective and easy way to generate attraction?
BeeBopJoe 7y ago
Your attitude on disinterest is not a good one imo. It just gives you an excuse to be lazy "Ohh I dont have to show interest, this will attract her to me by not doing anything and being disinterested".
Be more proactive, don't give yourself justifications to be lazy.
lifeisweirdasfuck 7y ago
Not really. I was asking because in these last months I've tried being more open (sociable) and direct and never seemed to work due to probable over-investment
zero12three 7y ago
It only works if she’s already attracted to you. Though, you can only push so far before she loses attraction entirely.
If she doesn’t know you exist, no amount of “active disinterest” is gonna make her fall for you.
Too much push without pulling and she’ll think you’re not really interested and move on to the next guy.
Store_Front_Door 7y ago
Stop with the theoretical bullshit. Straight out ignoring a woman only works in high school drama shows, where the edgy longhaired vampire isn't capable of maintaining eye contact and it makes the innocent bombshell moist.
In reality (yeah yeah, there are exceptions, but we're not about that life) you need to show interest in order for something to happen. The tricky part of it is to maintain your attention at the required level, but it becomes natural once you had enough practice. Be the man and approach, a few simple IOI's are enough to know that the girl is interested.
Overthinking the most basic human interactions is what causing you to flop. Approach, escalate, close.