When does the equilibrium of keeping frame and pissing your girl off get broken?
Example: Today I had a stupid situation with my woman. She was wearing no bra, black top, nipples pressed against the fabric. I told her I couldn't concentrate with her nipple like that, in a playful way.
She has small boobs and is very conscious about it.
She asked if I say that to other women too, instead of being playful or saying "shut up" with a smile or anything nice, so I went full honest and responded "yeah, if it's a friend and I'm just joking around, sure I'll say it too."
Boom! anger, immediate anger and calling me out saying I was out of place and that cheating would be the only step up to that. Silence treatment, no physical contact, the usual.
I didn't try to get her out of it, she said she knows I don't care when she's angry, I shrugged and smiled and said I didn't care when it wasn't about important stuff.
Anyways, my question is, do you ever think you're just pissing her off unnecessarily sometimes? That's how I felt today, but I didn't change my stance on the subject because that would achieve nothing.
When do you decide "you know what, I'll let this shit test or shit question pass" just for the sake of peace or not driving her mad?
Thanks.
ActualyIzDolan 8y ago
Nah dude, that was pretty necessary. She’s gotta learn to live with it, quit shit testing you, or get the fuck outta your life.
However, you could’ve handled it a different way and said it jokingly like “fuck yeah I do.” And it might’ve ended well, who knows.
Oh and FYI, I’ve found that girls that think extremely trivial things like that are cheating are usually doing some of the same things themselves. Take that with a grain of salt, as that varies by situation.
[deleted] 8y ago
so true bruv
VasiliyZaitzev Senior Endorsed 8y ago
It never stops, it just goes into remission periodically.
ActualyIzDolan 8y ago
Yeah you’re right. I’ve met a few gals who either don’t test me to the point where I notice it or they just don’t at all though.
But the point is, if she’s gonna try to demean you or get angry all the time over small shit, maybe you should waste your time on some other gals rather than this one.
[deleted] 8y ago
No wonder. You gave a serious answer to a shit test, which happens to be the only way to fail a shit test.
Not even responding would have been a better response than this.
Herdsengineers 8y ago
when she calms down, she'll be glad she's with a guy that speaks openly and isn't afraid. attraction will peak and you'll get a great BJ and she'll give up anal.
I_STOMP_YOU 8y ago
no she won't.
360_no_scope_upvote 8y ago
Women enjoy going through a range of emotions. I wouldn't worry about it. With that being said I've never been one to tread lightly. I would've answered with "they usually wear tassels"
Ou-tis 8y ago
"Do you say that to other women?" Depends on situation,but you can always respond with a banter o wittily like "and you can't imagine how many time I have to tell to men,geez!" (you can add some gesture or high voice) She make a smile,you defectled a shit test raising or mantaining your position and DGAF mentality and you have some peace.Everybody win. Or you could say "nah,only to those with socratic* (insert your strange word here) nipples" "What are socratic nipples?" You can remove the shirt and do what you want to do or going with the banter until you amuse yourself (and she forgotten the useles question.
I think your response was unnecessary because it was a simple shit test and change nothing to you give a witty answer,instead when occur something more important it's not a problem piss her off. I try to take this balance with my ltr : stupid shit test--->jokes important stuff--->I do what I want,I don't care if she piss of
[deleted] 8y ago
Don't do this when she has one of these outbursts or any time shortly after, but if you want a solid comfort-building move with a ting of dread, you can tell her at random, "hey, if I didn't like your tits, I wouldn't let you go out with me in public," or something similar.