Keep doing you. People who complain about "black and white" speech are pussies and can't handle talking that isn't sugar coated.

I lack nuance and am too "spearheading" with my opinions

I come off too strong or I don't put emotion into my thought process

Speech is nuanced. More often than not, it's not what you're saying but the way you feel about what you're talking about.

Good Rule of Thumb: Don't just talk to talk.

People hate filler/exposition in movies and TV shows because they don't add anything to the plot development or can be conveyed in a more interesting way. If you can't talk about whatever the topic is from experience or influence outside of "just knowing about it, just give a goofy answer or remember that silence is always an option.

Tl;dr: Avoiding conversations you don't care about, don't force yourself into filler responses.

The technical term is Splitting and it goes deeper than just black/white all/nothing thinking.

Look it up. It's a form of Outcome Dependence.

It's a defense mechanism against deep, existential fears of being frustrated/not getting needs met.

It's about denial and intolerance of mixed, ambiguous outcomes.

Ambiguity is good, women love that shit. It's not your enemy. Choose to embrace the gray areas.

Choose to accept that the things you like and things you want always have some negative traits and morally questionable consequences. No matter what. Nothing is ever ideal. And that's OK, you can handle it.

Splitting is an enemy to peace and satisfaction in your life, because it prevents you from appreciating what you already have.

Look at their input for what it really is: a gentle sign they're making to you that what you say makes them feel anxiety, makes them uncomfy.

The reason why it makes them uncomfy is not relevant. Why are you making people uncomfy, why are you not taking care of your people? Were you intent on ruffling feathers and making people uncomfortable, or are you just talking like that because you don't know any better? Big difference there, the first one is perhaps a sign of situational mastery and probably part of some bigger plan, the second is impotent juvenile delinquency.

Check out, 'On the implications of powertalk and other language categories.' by Whisper. Whisper's first comment has further reading. There are nuances of some conversations that perhaps you're not picking up on (especially in business).