I handle stress very poorly.
Whenever I get stressed out or something negative happens in my life (e.g. today, I was late to work because pooping problems and I couldn’t speed because cops everywhere), I completely lose focus and dwell and brew on the stress, and complain about it to everyone around me, including on this subreddit (that’s why I’m here right now). I can’t just block it out, and using calming techniques would be too obvious to everyone around me. As of right now, I still can’t focus because of the stress I went through this morning. I also get stressed out and frustrated very easily; I’m emotionally fragile. I feel like I want to run away from work, quit my job, and just break down and cry because my punctuality has been a major issue because of my pooping problems. I want to be an alpha male, but I have absolutely zero mental constitution or strength to handle the stress that comes with it. I just break down, fold, and collapse like a house of cards. And reading “The Subtle Art of Not Giving A Fuck” has not helped me. Everybody says I make mountains out of molehills and complain way too much, and they’re sick of it. I hate myself so much. My life runs on Murphy’s Law: anything that can go wrong does, at the worst possible time. My pooping problems are ruining my life. I can’t wipe my ass quickly; it’s like poo hides in my asshole; it takes me like an hour just to wipe my ass completely clean when the world expects me to be able to do it in 5 minutes.
I can’t handle my own emotions well. I can handle very minor stress & inconveniences that I don’t see as important to me getting the approval of others, but anything bigger/more important to me and I fold like a house of cards. I have calming techniques, but those go out the window as soon as I get stressed out and frustrated and it’s like I completely forget them and zone in on my feelings. Plus, part of the reason I’m like this (Asperger’s complications) is extremely shameful to admit because everybody hates spergs. And I can’t get therapy because it’s too expensive and my parents won’t pay for it, and Murphy’s Law seems to apply to my financial life as well (immediately after I finished my emergency fund, I sprained both my ankles (doctors appointment), my headphones broke, I needed driving sunglasses due to glare from driving to work, and my retainer broke (orthodontist appointment)).

OlderMarried1234 7y ago
Go zerocarb and high saturated fat and lift.
W_O_M_B_A_T 7y ago
Rule #1 of TRP: shut the fuck up and take action.
You have Generalized Anxiety issues and need to be talking to a psychiatrist.
Chronic anxiety is one of the most easily treated mental health conditions out there.
Corvus_Uraneus 7y ago
For starters, have you considered a bidet? That'll really get ya clean and speed up that throne time. An hour to wipe is ridiculous.
Secondly, do you exercise? Huge stress reliever, as well as an antidepressant/anti-anxiety.
Finally, have you considered speaking to a psychiatrist?
bossplayaintraining 7y ago
I have, but didn’t buy it.
Used to before I sprained my ankles playing basketball 3 weeks ago. Fortunately, I am feeling better on that front. My ankles have their normal range of motion, but they’re weak right now, so I’m slowly working myself back in so I don’t reinsure myself (not lifting, but I did some push-ups yesterday and crunches the day before that).
Corvus_Uraneus 7y ago
imtheoneimmortal 7y ago
Start reading "The mind illuminated" and start meditating
Terdmuffin 7y ago
Get help from a psychiatrist/psychologist about the stress. Go to your gp about your poop problems.
bluefingerblue 7y ago
Just lolling at the contradiction of the username bossplayaintraining and my guy getting stuck on the hopper for an hour every morning cleaning his butt then having a mental breakdown about it on the way to work like it’s Groundhog Day.
Sorry to laugh man but that’s funny. In all serious, go see a psychologist/psychiatrist/cognitive behavioral therapist. And start meditating.
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mindplaybyneo 7y ago
Every time you have stress pause. Take a deep breathe hold it for 4 secs, then exhale through the mouth. I have the same issue, and took me awhile to address it. If taking meds would help do it. I used to be anti medication, but It helps. Otherwise there is L-theanine or Ashwaganda that is also a great alternative. To fix your ankle issues buy some epsom salt and soak them up to heal faster, and increase your probiotic and fibre intake. If your poop is watery eat some bananas.
Rubbish27 7y ago
I saw a very good Tupac quote,
“You can spend minutes, hours, days, weeks, or even months over-analyzing a situation; trying to put the pieces together, justifying what could've, would've happened... or you can just leave the pieces on the floor and move the fuck on.”
The best time to act is right now, it doesn't matte what happened in the past, the past is for learning, the present is for action, the future is for reaping the rewards of the present.