Matched with a girl on Tinder, we had a decent introductory chat but she stopped responding, then hit me up a week later apologizing for not getting back to me. She lives close by but when I gave her a place to meet for drinks she let me know she doesn't drive, but is learning. Apparently massive panic attack when her driving instructor dropped her into traffic, blah blah etc.
Feeling like a red flag (anxiety issues) but could be a shit test or ...? Looking for input.
RedSkeller 8y ago
First off, any girl on tinder who leaves you hanging and then apologizes for not getting back to you is code for 'hey I was chasing this other guy and it fell through, you still around?'. Second, she can't drive so she can't uber? Also, if she can't manage to get a licence because 'muh anxienty' indicates crazy. We typically advise against that here.
a_desert_creature 8y ago
Thanks for confirming my initial thoughts and the added insight.
it_takes_the_redpill 8y ago
Just for perspective: I have an enthusiastic girl lined up to fuck this Friday.
She asked where I live and I told her (only my apartment building address. She doesn't get to know the specific apartment until she's actually there. I don't like random bitches flaking and knowing exactly where I live.)
I asked if she had a car, to which she replied something like "no, I get super anxious so I Uber everywhere".
Took me 3 messages to get the number and sex commitment. Very strong text game, no humble brag. Just pointing out that she wants the d really bad, and she's more than willing to figure shit out.
Lots of women are shitty drivers. Most of them because they don't like to/want to, not because they can't.
The anxiety stuff would be a red flag for an LTR, but IDGAF on a fling.
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a_desert_creature 8y ago
I was reading into it as a sign of attraction, but RedSkeller set me straight on that one.
Two_kids_in_a_coat 8y ago
Yep. Red flags all over the place. If you’re just gonna try to smash or plate then whatever, do not attempt a relationship with this train wreak.
onizloms 8y ago
I mean it's just a Tinder girl you haven't even met, why do you care. Meet her, see if you find her attractive, enjoyable whatever. Then take it from there. Talk about overthinking
a_desert_creature 8y ago
Because my time is valuable and I'd rather be home working on a project than wasting it on a potential psycho.
onizloms 8y ago
Yeah keep telling yourself that.
GrandmasterHurricane 8y ago
Any girl whos on Tinder is red flag. Never commit to a girl you meet online ever. You're not the only guy she's matchee wih, not her first and not her last. Some dudes she matches with and fucks right away, some others she strings along for attention and free shit, some she sticks with as FWB or LTRs. Also, the fact that a GIRL needs the internet to get more guys should tell u all u need to know.
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This is a double-whammy. She hit you with the anxiety (cap'n save a hoe sympathy bait) and an easy out for her to flake on you ("can't make it I don't have a car") in one sentence.
This girl is a fucking modern Machiavelli.
Zanford 8y ago
The red flag is she's not very into you. She left you hanging for a week (think about how often young women check their phones) and then makes zero effort to offer a solution for meeting up (like at a place closer to her, or letting you pick her up, or ubering)
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OP where do you live? Big city or small? Some women don’t drive in big cities depending on the area. If she can walk every where it makes sense that she can’t drive. If she is needing rides everywhere she goes then that’s a red flag.
a_desert_creature 8y ago
Big city, but out in this area the public transportation is almost nonexistent
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Yeah then something is up. She’d probably be okay to smash but not LTR material. You wouldn’t want to wife a woman who can’t handle driving a car. Probably can’t handle having kids and then you wind up finding your kid dead in a bathtub because she had “anxiety” and needed to go clear her head for a minute.
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RadioForMen 8y ago
Yes its a red flag that you dont care enough about the freedom, utility, and fun driving gives you, especially as a guy.
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RadioForMen 8y ago
It's bad for a girl. It's even worse for a guy. Thats what the word especially implies.