Small background :
My example :
I'm 19 - just finished high school. I loathed school so much, that I skipped a lot since 6th grade, even though I did okay at a top 5 school.
I've never felt more free and alive. I'm lifting consistently, eating well, implementing great habits and all the other goodies. I'm taking a year off (which is usually welcomed with wide faces) to pursue a business prospect. I personally think university is for people who aren't destined to succeed in the first place, for the average chump. Maybe my hatred for the system is oozing out a bit.
Anyways, my homeroom teacher wanted us to inform her on where we are going to study. Now, personally? I could give zero shits about what my classmates and my teacher thinks about my decision, and I kinda just want to tell her something like "I am happily unemployed", but then I thought to myself - even in situations where I don't give a fuck, should I still act socially "correct"?
On one hand, my answer is more true to myself, but if I think about it, it doesn't really achieve anything. In fact, it could even be detrimental to me in the long run if I constantly "act" this way about things, instilling bad habits . It's certainly not going to help me gain much.
It's like this - I personally would feel fine going to an Opera in shorts, but I do understand the ettiquete and will dress accordingly even though I "don't care".
I hope I got my message through. Thoughts on this?
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moltenw 7y ago
Kinda hard telling my homeroom teacher that I'm making Adult Porn games since I have no problems with amoral business and I'm only there for the money and the freedom of being a content creator... yeah...
That said, you are right about the "describe the same situation in different ways". I can just describe my situation as a "business opportunity with me being in charge of the graphic design aspect of it" etc.
abudun79 7y ago
From down where you are, I'm pretty sure what you described makes sense. That is pretty common. From your future plans, you're looking down on others, not having achieved much in your life, yet. The feeling of entitlement you spit out will not prove as a guarantee of success. That all is likely to bite you in your butt. Not that you will admit it then. There will be circumstances and other people mainly responsible for your failure to come.
That is the thing you should be working on. What you say in class doesn't matter too much.
But your thoughts on that specific topic show, that you have not understood the idea of that talk you're about to have. And, I think those around you will know what you think, no matter what you articulate.
moltenw 7y ago
So let's say I do succeed, and I'm making a good profit at the young age of 20-21 or something. I would KNOW that my approach is better, but is that really "looking down" ?
Let's take "Redpill" as a whole, then. People post about their experiences here all the time, and we all know that if a post is about a blue pill example, then the poster is better than the "blue pill example" chump. I'll take myself for an example as well.
Everytime I see a beta chump doing beta things out in the streets, I think to myself - "Man am I glad I found this sub...". Now, is that looking down? Like, if on all basis I am doing better than someone, but not really comparing myself with them, just understanding the reality of the situation, is that looking down on someone? Seems pretty ridiculous.
Perhaps it wasn't "looking down" until I mentioned "personally think university is for people who aren't destined to succeed in the first place, for the average chump" and instead I should have just explained why taking my approach is better instead of dissing the other one. Maybe that's the difference. Nevertheless, unless I'm with friends, I don't mention things like this except on here to perhaps give others a better glimpse of my true feelings...maybe that's exactly why I need to stop doing that, since even here it could be detrimental...
I know it will not prove a guarantee, but I believe in myself and in what I do. If it does fail? Only I will be to blame, and only me. If I tell someone to do X, and they don't do it correctly and everything fails because of it, it's my fault - you know why? Because I trusted that person with a task and my poor judgement thought that the person would be sufficient for the task. If there's one thing that I might even have too much of, it's being critical of myself. But hey, I'll take it - has lead me to this point at such a young age which I'm extremely grateful for.
Umm... yes? I wouldn't be asking this question if I had it understood. I still haven't understood it completely, because I see the upsides of both things in certain scenarios with different reasons.
abudun79 7y ago
You didn't.
And the rest... you said all of that before, just with fewer words.
You argue as if you have a reason to treat the people around you like shit, but you don't. And you've got some consciense left, so you know that yourself. Even if you would succeed, there would not be a reason for that behavior. Your attitude is not IDGAF, it is "I'm above you all and you waste my time".
moltenw 7y ago
... I know, that's why I said "let's say".
...and you deducted this from what... one asktrp post? Good one.
Cheers
abudun79 7y ago
Yes. You decided what you put into your post. And that is what I got from your text. Do you expect people to sense what you do not write?
moltenw 7y ago
You're right. It is my fault that you got that impression. I should have perhaps written it differently, although it's a bit hard when you know that the longer the post and more details, the more chance it will be completely ignored.
That said, perhaps not immediately jumping to conclusions based on 1 post could be a lesson for you as well. You can give advice on topics without coming to a black or white conclusion of a person as well.
abudun79 7y ago
Participate in the talk, give your best and report back how things went and how you feel afterwards.
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Hey man I've tackled with this same idea. I try to be pragmatic about things. The thing that drives my pragmatism is experience. It's all a process. Try not to overthink things and just go with what you feel is right in the moment. Sometimes it's better to not give a fuck and sometimes you need calibrate socially. Most times, a balance is optimal. No amount of theory will give you the answer. You need to go out and live. Your experiences will show you what works and what doesn't. It depends on a lot of things, you're personality, you're state of mind... At times, it might feel liberating to simply not give a fuck about anything. At other times, there is a bigger long term goal, one that requires you to act socially "correct", perhaps not completely, but at least somewhat. Don't think about it too much. Action is much more important. Just be doing things to improve your life. Whatever feels right in the moment is what you should go ahead and do. Then you might want to reflect on the results. It's all about experimenting. Be honest with yourself at all times. Don't give yourself too much stress or anxiety. Just do shit. All of this will come naturally. At one point in your quest to success, you'll reach a state of flow, where everything is happening organically. You'll fully understand what level of social "correctness" and what level of not caring is required for each situation. Every situation is unique. Your experiences will make these decisions second nature for you. You'll also need to understand yourself. What balance works well for your personality. Most important thing is to not overthink this. I can't say this enough. If you just act, it will all resolve itself. All of this will become second nature and you'll be able to experiment with ease. Anyways these are my thoughts. I'm around your age so let me know if you want to talk more.
moltenw 7y ago
Someone gets me, alright. You hit the nail on the head.
You're right, I do sometimes get in my head and overthink things. Maybe I just need to remind myself not to write posts about things I resolve naturally everytime I get there.
Sure, we can chat sometime. Perhaps discord?
[deleted] 7y ago
I sent you a chat on reddit. You're able to chat here aren't you?