In a relationship for 4 years, broke up and got back together 20+ times. I have been with 10+ girls during the break ups, so it has nothing to do with scarcity theory. Recently went on a university exchange in Australia, broke it off once again. Found TRP and I have been blown away by the theory and it's relevance/occurrence in my life. As I am living in a student residence it has been relatively easy plating other foreign students/domestics, been hitting the gym religiously, and focusing on self improvement.
Now given that background, my question is for those of you who have been off and on with their LTR's. How do you avoid going back to the relationship?
Just looking for some advice regarding what has worked for you guys in the past
TLDR: LTR for 4 years, off and on 20+ times, looking for advice in cutting it off completely
Westerncaesar 8y ago
No contact! Ever!! Complete wall block into your life.
majorbollocks 8y ago
She probably has BPD or some other mental illness. She broke up with you to ride other cock, and since you let her back in your life so easily every single time, she keeps doing it.
There's not winning with these types of chicks. I mean, I had one like this and I said "look, let's just keep this open so we can both fuck other people and avoid all this breakup drama."
But no, she wants her cake and eat it too. Next time she tries to suck you back in tell her you can only accept fwb at the moment and if she's not happy then too bad.
[deleted] 8y ago
Every break-up was done by me, I like the fwb advice
BusterVadge 8y ago
You're not ready to plate her. In fact, I believe that no man should ever be FWBs with an ex since there are so many other women out there of the same or better quality.
[deleted] 8y ago
You relapse for a couple of reasons:
When it’s going well, it’s better than any relationship you’ve ever had. When it isn’t, it’s literally the complete opposite. Then you break up.
IT’S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN.
The only thing that will happen is #1.
[deleted] 8y ago
Yeah I guess the reason I go back is the hope that she sorted out her issues and then I just realize she hasn't, vicious circle
[deleted] 8y ago
At some point, every guy has been in your shoes. You need one under you belt to help you recognize it with future girls. Why? It makes it easier to walk before you become emotionally invested. Leave white knighting for guys who don’t have options.
When women have these types of issues it’s usually bi-polar, BPD, or PTSD. Either way, they’re going to take it out on you because they lack self-awareness, boundaries, and the ability to take responsibility for their actions.
You’ll always be the bad guy in their eyes. Always.
ichivictus 8y ago
I think the quote fool me once shame on you fool me twice shame on me applies here. 20 plus times... well just be glad you found TRP before your brain hamstered a way to put a ring on her finger.
FieldLine 8y ago
Block her on social media. Delete her number. It's not hard to remove her from your life if you really want to.
The problem is that you dogs always insist on going back to your vomit. Have some self respect.