Single for a month now, started day gaming hard. I was out skating, isolated a girl who was also skating from her crew, and finally got her number. She had displayed IOIs in two previous conversations.
I talked to her a bit, got her number, and played around outside. I want to start verbally sexualizing in my initial text:
"You made those cutoffs look nice today."
I've read up on some text game and have had success in the past, but I feel a little self-conscious after being in an LTR for awhile (less practice) and not being too interested in cell phone usage.
I wouldn't compliment a girls looks like this on first approach, but I think it seems appropriate to invite flattery and explicit sexuality once. I'm also aware that I am single and possibly coming off as too desperate and/or aggressive to be attractive.
I've read up on the text game material, but still a little iffy and looking for advice here.
TL;DR - Should I include sexual flattery and escalation in my very first text to a girl that I have said maybe 500 words to over three encounters?
Also: Is it standard issue to exchange snapchat/instragram w/e the fuck early on? I'm in my late twenties, but mostly dating girls who are under or around 20.
360_no_scope_upvote 8y ago
The very best text game, here it is:
Reven311 8y ago
Text game is a game for masters, not novices (just my opinion). I've seen too many men fuck up a text game, it's an inherently weak position and easy to take things out of context and removes any skill involved in socialization. I know women love texting each other, but you are not her friend, you want to fuck her, so call her on the phone and talk about whatever you desire.
AlfredKinsey 8y ago
Yeah, my generally disinterest in it is that it relinquishes control and timing. So, generalize to a phone call: is first non-in-person contact a good time to start complimenting her and escalating our conversation?
FWIW, the first thing she said to me was a physical compliment.
Reven311 8y ago
You can mention you liked something she did that involved skill, but don't complement her attractiveness. It needs to be followed up in a direct and aggressive way that you want to see her in person. That is the whole point of the phone call. You know she wants you, so get her ass in a bar or something and get some alcohol in her. Then just let it flow organically.
AlfredKinsey 8y ago
Skating with her sets that up pretty easily, thnx.
Reven311 8y ago
No problem, and good idea, you'll do fine because you have a common interest which makes it simple, just remember she's just a woman, not an alien lifeform.
Tony_Danza_the_boss 8y ago
Best success I've had with it is actually little to none at all. Use it for logistics. Set up where you're going to meet, when you're going to fuck, and the next time you'll hang out. As mentioned before, you're not her friend so don't try to be.
AlfredKinsey 8y ago
So, go for the invite in the initial phone conversation?
Tony_Danza_the_boss 8y ago
Yes but don't force it. Personally I just say hey as an opener 1 or 2 texts of flirting/escalation and then set the day and time of when we'll meet. Quick and simple. I'm saying long chains of back and forth texting is going to get you no where.
AlfredKinsey 8y ago
Yeah, I'm definitely not looking for an 18 year-old female friend.