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Law 2

Never put too Much Trust in Friends, Learn how to use Enemies Be wary of friends-they will betray you more quickly, for they are easily aroused to envy. They also become spoiled and tyrannical. But hire a former enemy and he will be more loyal than a friend, because he has more to prove. In fact, you have more to fear from friends than from enemies. If you have no enemies, find a way to make them.

The 48 Laws of Power by Robert Greene and Joost Elffers

Reach out to a local proud boy chapter.

Do what I did. Cut all the shitty friends from your life and tell them why you did it. I have one guy best friend and some girls( about 6) who I hang out with( girls are fun for a night out in a club, but nothing more than that) and that's it. Focus on yourself.

Solitude is a gift. Use it.

I found most of my friends at the gym and almost all of them are doing some sort of self improvement.

That sounds like really bad luck if everyone you meet in your various hobbies are shitty people. There are a lot of piece of shit people out there, but it is far, far from 100% of everyone but you.

I like to hike and I made some great friends doing that and I only met a handful of people who were bad and that I made a point to avoid. Of course I'm sure there were more than that, but I didn't become close friends with any that turned out really badly.

All I can say is be a better judge of character and don't waste time with people who are not cool. Cut them off quick and move on to the next person.

I’ve mostly given up on friends largely because men have been ruined by society. They’re only interested when they need something from me, and I make it a point never to rely on people. That makes it so any time I get a call or a message I know it’s someone asking for something. It’s a lonely life being red pilled, but I wouldn’t have it any other way.

I’m 28, similar situation. I started using Meetup based on my interest. You should do the same and find like minded people (yoga, team sports, dancing, etc).

Ive made incredible friendships because I connect with people on a deep level, and because I’m very social and always have fun shit going on.

But I really honestly don’t make friends so much as I make people into what I want them to be, essentially. People always always always enter into my frame, because I’m a very persuasive person with high emotional intelligence. Once they enter into your frame and you learn more about them and become closer, you can start to correct the shit they do that bothers you so that in the end you’re both better off.

So many people advocate for cutting people off, and in some situations you should, but I’ve found it’s much better to figure out why they are why they are and then help mold them into better people. I’ve done this a done and they’re all lifting now, more social and more self aware.

Stop taking their calls is the first step. If they pop in, do not answer the door.

If they invite you somewhere, tell them you're busy. If they say "Busy doing what?" You tell them none of their business.

You don't owe these wankers anything, even a 'mannerly' response. They are working against your interests.

It sounds like you have a lot going on; you surely won't be lonely too long.

You know a lot more people than you think. All the people you've been to school with or worked with are potential friends. Everyone is looking to improve their social circles, you need something to offer. You need to demonstrate value to one person, they will talk about you, and you're likely to be invited out the next time their group goes out if you made everyone had a fun interesting night.

Ill give you an example. I went out last weekend with a BP friend from high school. He's boring, fat, no friends and literally follows me around all night. I saw an OLD friend who I used to live next to when I was a kid in the club. We say hey etc and I asked if he had any fit mates. He was like hell yeah! He showed me them and I proceeded to game one of them and pull one. But also, I had a great time. I was dancing like I didn't care I even made sure to introduce my BP friend. I was sort of the faucet of fun that night. He is now super interested in being my friend, asking to meet up for casual drinks and a catch up. I firmly believe if I didn't pull one of his HOT friends and be a good laugh to be around, then he wouldn't have been half as interested.

My advice would be not to act like someone you aren't and look for the loners who look like they got their shit together. There are many people on the same boat as you. I joined a frat and had one on one talks with select few of the guys who I knew I had stuff in common with. I started my own nonprofit and invited them to help out and shoot the shit with them when drinking

I cannot tell you how to find them, because it is different for everyone, I think. I can say this with absolute certainty, though:

--if you have to choose between having bad friends and no friends, definitely choose to have no friends

Make it your maxim.

BJJ/MMA gyms (real ones, not mcdojos) are IMO a good place to find alpha men who are good to befriend. Training BJJ/MMA is also very beneficial for frame and confidence

Live to your values.