Hey boys, quick and easy question here.
Just had a Netflix and chill date on Monday. We hooked up, she was cool, so I’m interested in seeing her again.
How do you guys usually go about setting the 2nd date after a first date of just hanging out, watching movies and hooking up?
I’m thinking of aiming for Saturday at the earliest, Monday at the latest, for a full week to pass.
zero12three 8y ago
Honestly, I’d set up a date with another girl instead and just wait for the first one to hit me up first.
JerryLawlerPigFace 8y ago
I actually have one set up for tomorrow. But even after this past Monday’s date, she sent me a text saying how much fun she had and how she wanted to see me again (something I’m not used to, thanks TRP). So she’s made it clear she wants to hang again already.
I personally see how pushy and needy hanging out with the same girl (who’s new) multiple times within a few days looks thanks to a beta friend of mine, so I want to avoid that at all costs. Even texting a chick too soon to set up a date for a few days from now is something I want to avoid.
GEAR_IN_THE_REAR 8y ago
I think if she's the one wanting to hang out (hook up again) I wouldn't think that much about these "rules".
I see your point but there's a difference between hanging out and just hooking up. At least for me, the "rules" are different depending on the intentions of the meetup and girls actions.
edit: but you still don't want to come off as needy. You have other/better shit to do than hanging out. Keep that in mind.
lol_throwaway303 8y ago
Asd kicking in creating plausible deniability. Who’s gonna admit to coming over to fuck like that. ‘Hanging out’ makes it sound better even though you both know what’s going to happen.
zero12three 8y ago
This, just hook up with her whenever it’s convenient for both of you. The “rules” are just for pretending that you are busy and are there to help you if you got nothing else better to do than chase pussy.
JerryLawlerPigFace 8y ago
Absolutely. Meditation and this new job I’m interviewing for are much higher on my priority list.
She’s making it very easy for me the way it is now, she must’ve had a great time, so you’re right, there’s not too much to think about here. I’ll probably just shoot her a text on Friday afternoon to set up for Saturday or Monday night
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suckymeh 8y ago
Set it up for whenever you desire and at your convenience. There are no rules.
For me it's simple as this...I have Tuesday free. Message girl#1: hey sexy. Come over Tuesday. If she says no (for any reason, maybe she's working)... I message #2.
When I run out of girls I want to bang on Tuesday, maybe I just banged #2 yesterday and don't want to see her again... I start setting up dates from tinder.
If those aren't biting, I look for something social to do: Meetup, salsa dancing, live band... Where I can flirt and meet girls.
Maybe it's a boring fucking Tuesday with nothing going on. Hey that's my day now. Hit the gym hard, dishes, laundry, food prep, hike or bike, do my shopping. Then I have my shit done for my other days off.
mrHappyPotatoe 8y ago
Hanging out should be left for actual ltr's.