Background:
Met this chick online for language exchange. Very good IOIs. Wants me to visit her (we live far apart - I will at some point but won't go out my way to do it). We've had a few phone conversations. She really wants to see me so I send her a recent photo of me. I have grown out my hair quite long this year, so I look quite different from my profile pictures.
Her: In my opinion I prefer you with short hair. It looks like girl hair (translated from her language).
I don't know if it's a shit test or if she genuinely doesn't like it (fair enough, it's a contrasting taste).
How do I respond to this? I was going to Skype her today for the first time. But now I just want to drop it and ignore her.
Should I just treat it like a shit test? :
"Yeah I told you, I am a lesbian" (inside joke because we were insulting each other in our languages previously)
"Thanks"
"K"
Or just ignore?
jkp99 7y ago
Read the rational male, specifically the section about buffers and how they are used to not get rejected.
Story sounds terribly like you are using her to not get with girls with easy/realistic logistics.
Anoobwholovesboobs 7y ago
Thanks. I'll have a look into it.
Yeah, I am learning a new language as part of my goals this year and using an app to meet new people for language exchange and practice. I have a few already that I touch base with who are not in the same country I live in like this chick. But if I plan to visit the country at some point, it would be nice to have some back burning booty to contact. It just happens that this chick has shown a real obvious interest in me.
MisterRoid 7y ago
You should never change anything for a girl. Just ignore her opinion.
lauris652 7y ago
You know, you reminded me one conversation i had when i was a 16 y.o. dumbass. Girl said "its hot when guys have long enough hair so you can play with it while hes eating you out". So what about the answer like: "girls like to play with it when im eating them out"? What do you guys with more TRP knowledge think about this answer?
HurricaneHugues 7y ago
"I'm beautiful"
Abeham10 7y ago
After your response to her shit test and her “thanks” leave it at that. Go about your day and wait for her to reach out again.
Anoobwholovesboobs 7y ago
I haven't responded yet. Those are just options of what I should respond/do.
babybopp 7y ago
Dont change anything for a girl. If she doesnt accept you for who u are, next.
First it will be hair then clothes then work then who your friends are...etc. manipulation is something you need to recognize. Ignore her. If she keeps doing it, go on ahead and skedaddle outta there.
Anoobwholovesboobs 7y ago
I absolutely agree. It's my first time ever to have grown like this and I kinda like it. However, this is probably the first criticism of it and although it hasn't hurt my ego, I wondered if it affected my SMV in anyway.
It definitely sounds manipulation as I have felt like she was trying to get me to step into her frame several times in different occasions. The fact that I haven't stepped in yet makes me think that's she's getting frustrated but at the same time can't stop talking to me?
I'll ignore her and see what happens.
She always initiates anyway.
Thanks for your input.
[deleted] 7y ago
"I already cut it short after getting lots of complaints from other girls that it was tickling their nose every time I went balls deep."
teearrpeer 7y ago
At that point you might as well just respond with "I HAVE LONG HAIR BECAUSE I HAVE LOTS OF SEX WITH FEMALES"
[deleted] 7y ago
You should ask her if she has hair in her nose. If she wants to know why you are asking you would tell her that you also have long hair around your butt hole and that you'd like to enlace it with her nasal hair.