Hey
Been trying to improve my game as of late, with some success by my standard. Anyway, lately I recall especially four different dates with good looking women by my standard (HB 7, 7,5 and even a 8,5) that got me thinking.
Generically speaking the dates have been as follows: meet out (but near my place) during the evening for ice cream etc. Following 30-60 min. of pleasant convo I've invited them back to my place with some "bullshit" pretext like wine, movie or something humourous like Mario Kart. They accept and I go for the kiss within maybe 30 min. once at my place. -> End up in my bed getting atleast partially naked (topless or more). -> Banged one of them with others I got different types of LMR, still a good time for a beginner like myself though. They have all been eagerly grooping me and shoving their tongues down my throat haha so everything has been mutual.
Now, by my logic coming this far on a first date would indicate strong interest and guarantee a second date. That has been the case with the one I banged and possibly will be with one more. The other two just cut contact.
Any feedback for getting more second dates as well as managing LMR is warmly received. I find it hard to believe, but maybe I'm escalating too hard and even coming across as needy? Moreover, my current tactic for LMR is to back off and try to build up again. Three strikes then just lay off.
vandaalen 7y ago
So you wrote them a message two days later saying "Hey. How are you?" after you made out with them and they didn't answer? And nothing else happened? Just out of the blue? I call bullshit.
operationragnarok 7y ago
Yep. Happened twice. Which made me think I'm doing something wrong or maybe just unlucky due to small sample size.
Any thoughts?
askmrcia 7y ago
I would not call this bullshit only because I experienced this myself a few times.
Three times this year. Most recently last week. I took this girl out who seemed to be super interested in me. Long text and very flirty when we met up.
Made out with her in the parking lot and I even fingered her.
Tried to set up a date later, but then she hits me with the "sorry I'm leaving to vacation for Brazil for two weeks."
Asked her about Friday since she said she was busy. She hits me with "sorry I'm going out with my book club Friday."
Haven't heard from her since.
Another one which was back in June, I took this girl out. Invited her back to my place. She gave me head but didn't want to go further because she claimed she was on her period. Asked her out again... No response.
And the third one, this was about three weeks ago. Took her out. She seemed to have a great time. Made out with her. She said she was down to hang again. Tried asking her out, kept making excuses to then I stopped messaging.
vandaalen 7y ago
That is not the same as fingering a girl and never hearing from ger again.