I was on date yesterday. I am learning how to escalate and close whenever I can. this time something I am not used to happened, my gut told me to push it further but I chickened out. We are walking in a park, it was night time and we were walking past a pretty dark area of the park. The girl I was with kept steering us towards that area. My instinct was that she wanted me to kiss her there and get reasonably freaky. I did take her there but I chickened out. We moved on and what is expected of a woman happened. She shit-tested me a few times after that.
What I learned is what I did earlier and in a previous date worked great. she got wet.
My question to you guys, did I really fuck it up or and how do I recover? Also, Can anyone give me a cheat sheet for physical escalation? I feel like I'm lacking in that area.
TheStumblingWolf 8y ago
Don't consider it a fuckup, consider it a lesson. Calling it a fuckup is an incredibly negative way of looking at it and it'll only hinder you. Think about it - next time you're in a similar situation there's a significantly smaller chance you'll handle yourself the same way.
In time you'll be confident enough to listen to what your subconscious tells you. The way I see it when we have these hunches it's usually a result of your subconscious having picked up subtle hints.
ChadThundercockII 8y ago
That's what I thought. The human brains is too evolved to not pick up on those signals, plus I'm not autistic lol.
For the negativity part, I agree. I have been putting off meditation for too long because I'd rather punch the heavy bag or do pull ups. I need to put in some meditation time soon.
Thanks bro.
redhawkes 2 8y ago
Just remember this:
Always be escalating
As for the escalation part, don't sweat it that much it'll feel awkward at first.
Put your hand around the small of her back as you walk.
Make deep eye contact with her and start making out.
Grab her ass, then move your hand and grab her boob. Put your hand under her shirt and continue.
Then move your hand towards her inner thighs and start rubbing. You can sense the tingles from there on. Rub her pussy thru pants, if she doesn't resist put your hand inside and continue.
Remove her shirt, then yours, then her bra etc. and the most important thing you should remember is to make it your fault, meaning you lead she follows. That will prevent you from triggering ASD.
As for ASD/LMR two steps forward, one backward rinse, repeat.
If there's asd/lmr after 3-4 attempts, remove attention/affection and go do something else.
Maybe.
Text her for logistics after 3-4 days, if she doesn't respond or if she gives you excuse and don't reschedule, next.
ChadThundercockII 8y ago
Thanks bro. We already got touchy with each other. I get my hands on her back and thighs several times, so did she. She also like to hold my biceps and lay her head on my shoulder.
Writing that, I feel like I have been a little anxious because she seems open to me and very comfortable.
TheSilentOne13 8y ago
Thank you for explaining a proper escalation plan. Havent found one on trp for months. This should be a sidebar example of how someone can properly escalate having been in a similar issue as OP.
ChadThundercockII 8y ago
Redhawkes plan is pretty lit, I presume. Let's both try it out and then report back.
redhawkes 2 8y ago
Bro I expect a FR with f close, also don't be autistic with escalation, calibrate.
ChadThundercockII 8y ago
It will, man. Anyway it goes, it will be fun.
coloredzebra 8y ago
I'll just say this, women can smell the hesitation, at least in my experience. When they do, it's equivalent to us downgrading a main, to a plate.
Meaning, they no longer see you as the strong assertive frame which they thought. You may have lost a couple pointers, although it depends on how attracted she is to you.
ChadThundercockII 8y ago
With the advice and pointers I got from you guys, I am confident I will recover beautifully. I am also confident that I am a high value man and no woman in her right mind would lose faith in me that easily.
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