I am starting to spin plates, but have never done so before. I think my lack of experience and stress has been leading to performance anxiety. My friend suggest talking about it with my plates before leaving on break. I think I would lose frame by doing that. I think I am going to leave things as they are and pick things backs up after break so I have time to analyze myself. What is the best way to get through this? Any advice is appreciated.
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DadOnDabs 8y ago
You habe to get to the root of the problem to overcome it. Ask yourself why you are having anxiety and figure out why.
Most of the time it's stupid pressure in your head and you are looking for her validation that you pumped her like a good boy. Who tf cares it's your dick and you wanting to get off so why does her validation matter?
Meditate, develop some internal game, and shit if it happens just laugh it off.
I've busted a nut in the first 2 minutes too many times to count. I simply laugh it off, say "good girl you made me cum quick" and go for round two. You're a man your dick will get hard again.
RedFelix 8y ago
So in the short term should I cut off contact with plates before winter break and figure this shit out?
DadOnDabs 8y ago
Just the opposite. Make some you time of course but get more comfortable with them so you aren't so nervous. I usually bust quicker with new girls vs girls I've been seeing and fucked a lot.
fnordsnord 8y ago
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RedFelix 8y ago
I take my pants off, and I soften up. Everything up til that is fine, and it's never been a problem until now.
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RedFelix 8y ago
So In the short term should I be pressing for more FaceTime with my plates even though i know I might get stage fright? In sounds like that should be cultivating abundance, but I really don't know
RedFelix 8y ago
So In the short term should I be pressing for more FaceTime with my plates even though i know I might get stage fright? In sounds like that should be cultivating abundance, but I really don't know
SirKolbath 8y ago
Probably not a good idea to take your friend's advice unless he is thoroughly red pill. In this case, he definitely is not.
Performance anxiety comes from being invested in the outcome of the situation. When you divorce yourself from that you will find that you have considerably less anxiety because you don't care as much.
You don't say specifically what type of performance anxiety you are experiencing. I don't think it actually matters for the purposes of this discussion. Just understand that if something goes wrong, no matter what it is, laugh it off. Own it, ignore it, and move past it.
RedFelix 8y ago
Performance anxiety as in like right before fucking her I get soft.
SirKolbath 8y ago
Sounds like you're thinking too much about it and whether or not you'll be a good fuck. Read No More Mister Nice Guy. He talks about this sort of thing, albeit obliquely.