Everytime I make a new male friend somewhere (work, social group, whatever) it quickly always gets to the point where they start disrespecting me.
I don't know if it's my expectations of friendships and revealing too much about myself or the frame I'm putting across. But most new people I meet attempt to disrespect me quite soon into the relationship. My only option is to tolerate or walk away.
The more they know about me the more they attempt to disrespect. Rarely do I meet someone who is chill and doesn't feel the need to AMOG and just wants to connect, casually or more.
Any ideas or insights?
ronvon1 8y ago
Its bc you're a faggot ass loser....
empatheticapathetic 8y ago
HAHAHAHAHA
SirKolbath 8y ago
Pick better quality friends. And honestly, I've noticed that I get back what I give out. I tend to talk my friends up. After all, that's why I picked them to hang with: they're fucking awesome.
If one of them is talking me down or constantly trying to AMOG me, I will gradually phase that idiot out. I can't control his behavior and don't want to, but I don't have to tolerate it around me.
empatheticapathetic 8y ago
My point is most people eventually turn into this. As far as i can tell I give out good vibes but they can't help but try and see me as someone they can AMOG and use to step upon when that's something i will never accept. I'm putting out some sort of loser vibe or something but i'm not aware of it.
SirKolbath 8y ago
Perhaps examine your behavior and see if you are doing it to them. If you are, they might be doing it back since that is "the game you're playing".
Understand that I'm not there and have little context, but I noticed that when I stopped fucking with people for jokes and started talking them up, they started doing the same to me.
1Pink1Stink 8y ago
You're soft. If you're easy to disrespect, then that's the energy you put out.
empatheticapathetic 8y ago
Yeah I think you're right. But I don't know how to make friends otherwise I guess. A male friend has always been someone I could relax somewhat around but apparently that isn't the case anymore.
BKLager 8y ago
Consider that they're shit tests not AMOG behavior. They just want to know you're the real deal and not some fake. Try treating this as banter and respond similarly
empatheticapathetic 8y ago
I do understand they are shit testing me and I consider that. But it goes too far, to the point they're willing to chuck the 'friendship' away over it.
I respond with banter but I believe I am responding in place of moments when I should be reacting less favourably.
mechsx 8y ago
That's why you need to hit gym and also learn how to fight. No one will try treat you like a bitch again, in fact you'd be surprised at how well people will treat you.
empatheticapathetic 8y ago
I'm in the gym but had a long period off due to injury.